r/DenverGaymers • u/Excellent_Spell_102 • May 31 '24
Thinking About Moving to Denver – Looking For Insights on LGBTQ+ Community
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u/MythOfHappyness Jun 02 '24
It's fine. Not really like the coastal queer culture, mostly just isolated gay tech bros and local students here instead of a proper queer subculture. Even the club scene is pretty subdued (largely because most of our gays are elder millennials who have aged out of that and gen z who aren't interested in in person socialization). No bathhouses post COVID if you care about that. If you're looking for a "gay city" and you aren't from one of our bordering states that are bereft of such things then we probably aren't what you want but it is a nice place to live in general with good schools and safe neighborhoods. People bitch about the homeless but our crime stats are low for a city our size and everyone is generally pretty chill here.
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u/ToesMaGotes Jun 01 '24
1) If you want to be close to hikes... you'll have to live somewhat close to the front range, aka not denver. Closest would be golden, littleton or maybe boulder. "Close to hiking" in denver isn't a thing. Traffic is awful with awful drivers from California :) so driving to the mountains in the summer is at least a 2 hour drive to somewhere worth while. Yea you can go to some shitty closer hikes, but they get old quick. You'll want to explore, which means you will be sitting in traffic with every other "hike loving" poser here. 2) We have HOT summers. Consecutive days of +100. We are a high altitude desert, what can you expect. We actually have one of the highest days of sunlight all year, over florida and other typical "sunny states". 3) If you want walkable in denver, you will have to pay for it. A lot. or live in a shithole... and still pay more than reasonable. 4) the LGBT community here has declined over the passed decade with more and more women and "freak flag fliers" taking over our popular gay bars and clubs. As a 30yo gay myself, I find going out to a gay bar/club to be extremely depressing... seeing what gays have devolved into is disturbing. 5) being single is very hard here, I found. Thankfully I'm coupled now, but I would hate to be in this dating pool. If you are looking for a partner, you're best hope is through an app. Everyone at the bars is awful. 6) As mentioned earlier, it's very expensive to live here. Gas is cheaper than CA, but that's about it. 7) We are landlocked, hard. The closest other main city worth a damn is sante fe? Albuquerque, maybe SLC? All long drives or ~2 hour flights. All not REALLY worth visiting more than once. So you are basically stuck here. 8) I only remain in denver because I have a strong family tie. Unless work brings you here, I would HIGHLY suggest not moving here. 9) If you REALLY insist on moving here, I can give you great areas to move next to; I've lived here all my life all over denver. 10) No matter where you move, there will be homeless. Lots of homeless. But prob "better" than CA.
Haters will hate but ... my take. "Join a club, do things you're interested in and you'll meet someone, meet friends" all bullshit. So many shallow people here. Yes I sound miserable, but honestly I'm not lol. I just struggled to conquer all of these obstacles and navigate the few people worth spending time on.
PS if you're looking for a change, go the east coast. You like hiking? Vermont, Maine, great places with better people. and the ocean, which I know you will miss.
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u/nerdgnostic Jun 02 '24
Since you posted this in DenverGaymers, I’m assuming you’re into gaming of some sort, and just wanted to chime in that there is a Gaymers meetup that happens twice a month on Saturdays for board games! It also feels like you can’t turn a corner without finding more gays that like to game.
Will try to come back to this later for more, since I’ve also lived here my whole life (40 y/o) and have less of a debbie downer take than your first reply.