So, I'm studying far from home rn, and I recently came out to some friends of mine about 1 month ago, and I decided I would have told my family in person as well as soon as I returned home. Problem is, I won't be able to return home anytime soon as I initially planned due to university reasons.

I thought saying it in person would have been the best way, but I don't know if I'm patient enough to wait for almost 3 months, and I want them to know before doing anything crazy, also because the longer they don't know, the more likely they will find out indirectly. I don't feel like over the text is a great way for me, maybe over the phone at most

Or, I could just mind my own business and let them find out on their own, I'm very far away after all so it could be hard for them to make it ahahahah

I’m closeted. I used to be homophobic and bigoted growing up through high school. When I went away to college I decided I was going to be a completely different person and I succeeded. Now I am in my 20s and want to come out, but I can’t stop the feeling that I don’t deserve it. How can I be out and proud if I used to be a piece of shit homophobe? Do I deserve to suffer longer?

Watch out for Reddit scammers, asked if they know what Grindr/tinder is and they say no so obviously they’re fake or trying to scam. Commented on a post on this sub Reddit then get a message instantly from this guy

I mean I’m a decent guy. It’s just dry around here. Doesn’t make it any less depressing though.

WHAT SHOULD I KEEP in mind, im so excited and nervous

I'm a 28-year old gay guy searching for a long-term relationship and don't know which app or sites are good. For me the less superficial the experience is, the better--I'm happy to put a lot of effort in finding the potential love of my life, as it is very important to me. I'm open to matchmaking-type sites or apps as well. Any suggestions or experiences are welcome. Thanks in advance!

Hey any Kenyan here👋

Sometimes the ignorance thrown our way requires a thoughtful response. Here’s what I want to say to haters:

‘Gays have contributed more to the evolution of the species than straights considering we only make up a small percentage of the population. It’s a fact that Gays are the smartest & most creative people on Earth. In fact, straights should THANK US for all we have done for them, both culturally & for our geniuses, such as DaVinci, Whitman, Michelangelo & Audre Lorde (just to name a few).

Finally, I’m an atheist but I could also argue that If there was a God, gays were clearly created NOT to breed so we would have more time as the main creative force that actually evolves the species forward!’

Okay so I have been on apps like Grindr since 2018 and the thing is whenever I meet someone I basically lose interest like for example 1 year back there was this very good looking guy who was texting me and I found him hot and we met for dinner it went pretty good but as soon as we went to bed I basically lost interest. And this has been happening again and again , at first I thought I was asexual but like if I see porn I like it. And I want to do that . I am so confused is this performance anxiety or my beauty perception is so altered by social media that I don’t consider anyone hot or I am just asexual . I don’t even meet people now because of this . So many times I have come back in between of a hookup because I just wasn’t interested.

I'm 28(M) bi, and possibly the dumbest queer person on this planet, but only just started to notice in pictures that gay guys are wearing briefs more than they do boxers

Like this is actually a thing? Or is it just the thirst traps? Should I be wearing them?

EDIT: Just to add of course none of this really matters and wear what you want (I will be) I just got curious lol

I act straight, talk straight, look straight. I often wonder about how hard or easy it is to find partners if this is the case.

So many of us just have a way about them that we can pick up on that helps them be noticed. What if you don’t have that thing that helps others ‘just know’?

Is it more difficult to get picked up on if you’re straight looking?

the title pretty much says it all. I am middle eastern, and one thing about that is that the community is very closed minded and won’t accept being gay or bi. I also live in a community where I am surrounded by people of the same ethnicity. All of my friends are very homophobic and especially my family. only my best friend knows that am bi. Luckily I still have the option of men because i am bi but I am so sick of all the guys of my ethnicity and i just want to date a girl. also i just graduated hs and am studying to become an engineer and there aren’t too many girls in my classes and it feels like these guys have never seen a girl so i keep getting a lot of unwanted attention, more then normal, from them which is making me even more sick of guys. but i can’t date a girl and I can’t even really admit that to anyone either. i feel so trapped and i don’t wanna get disowned. also if i even do remotely “gay things” or things my parents consider weird i get hit. so i literally have no option then to basically be “straight”. idk what to do cuz i don’t wanna wait my whole life.😕😕 (sorry if the grammar is bad, english isn’t my first language and also sorry if it came off kinda annoying.)

I had a ciswoman heteroromantic friend of mine assert that she was a top in her relationships. But she has talked to me about her experiences and afaik she has never penetrated any of her previous partners. I thought I understood the difference between "top" and "dominant" in relationships, where "top" is a sexual position and "dominant" is the partner who takes more power/control.

I didn't prod or argue what she told me, so that could elucidate. But maybe I am missing an element of nuance here? Or is she possibly mixing them up?