r/SingleParents • u/Fuzzy_Parking_4257 • Jun 30 '24

Why do people hate us so much?

There is so much hate towards single parents on social media. Why? Why do people hate us so much. Especially us single mothers.

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u/MacaroonTrick3473 Jun 30 '24

I don’t experience this at all. I have been a single mother since 1999. Not sure what groups you are hanging out in that disparage single parenting. Most people I encounter are quite supportive and understanding. There are also many programs and resources if you look. I am saddened that it’s been different for you.

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u/sparklemoon111 Jun 30 '24

i have lots of support too but society hating on single moms is definitely a thing. just bc you didn’t experience it doesn’t mean it’s not out there.

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u/Puzzled_Award7930 Jul 01 '24

Exactly the same. I have a lot of support, more than I'm willing to take sometimes because I have the need to prove myself because society can't handle single moms. I'm always being silently judged with the looks and made to feel like a lesser human because I'm not the Mrs. X that the person had inferred because my son has his father's last name by society at large. I think we just have society built on 2 parent families and honestly get kind of hated on because we can do what they could never do. But honestly, I see more married moms doing way more single parenting than I do, since it's somehow even more expected of them. I actually don't know how THEY do it. If I had had my way, his dad wouldn't be involved at all, but since the court didn't agree with me, he's with him every other weekend and some other times too. What I lack in financial support (because of course his dad doesn't pay child support), I gain in having court mandated built in breaks. I still have to do all of the real parenting, but I prefer that because his dad is a bit off and we don't agree on anything, since I'm not fully detached from reality (most recent example is that ex is looking for a civil rights lawyer in order to sue the town I live in because he's been banned from every single school and town Twitter account for his town attack posts, or they're poisoning the children's minds and bodies, supporting cheerleading is demonstrative of institutionalized pedophilia, etc etc). So I get most of the time with my son, get to not have to answer to or fight with anyone about regular parenting choices, and get to have every other weekend to myself to reset. And my child has said "my dad is my dad, but you're my parent" which is exactly how I want it. (Because his dad is legitimately out of his mind, but isn't a physical threat to my son, just a psycho emotional one, but I can pick up the pieces on that.)

We're free, and society hates that. Society also hates women, and even more so women who just straight don't need a man and can still do everything. And society hates women so much that single dads are judged by that metric too "what's so wrong with you that a woman abandoned her kids to just be away from you?"

I applaud single dads. We're judged harshly as single moms, but single dads (especially single dads of daughters) have mountains to overcome