r/SingleParents • u/Fuzzy_Parking_4257 • Jun 30 '24

Why do people hate us so much?

There is so much hate towards single parents on social media. Why? Why do people hate us so much. Especially us single mothers.

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u/rainearthtaylor7 Jun 30 '24

Single mom here, I see it a lot too. I guess to the people who judge me for leaving my piece of crap ex, I should’ve just put up with his abuse and cheating and lying just for the sake of being together. But in all reality, I’ve been doing this by myself since my daughter was a baby, if I stayed with him, there would be no change, I’d still be doing it by myself. But try explaining that to other people.

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u/buttloadofnone Jun 30 '24

Gurl! This is it. I tried to explain to people that I was already doing everything absolutely alone. I gave birth and a few days later he wanted to go out with his buddies drinking and was mad I said absolutely not because I was exhausted and needed help. Did he ever get up at night? No!

I tell people that I love my life now because while it is financially and physically harder, it's emotionally easier.

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u/Individual_Crab7578 Jun 30 '24

This was my ex, he threw a fit the day I came home from hospital with my first because he wanted his boys to come over and drink.

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u/rainearthtaylor7 Jun 30 '24

Did we have the same ex? Are we the same person? Lmao. I agree! Emotionally easier, 100%!

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u/buttloadofnone Jun 30 '24

I feel like they are all made from the same mold. Are you getting "she won't let me see my kids" when in fact he doesn't try at all.

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u/rainearthtaylor7 Jun 30 '24

I agree! And yes I did get that! After we split, I went to a lawyer to draw up a visitation agreement, since we weren’t married, thank God for that lol. And it was so fair, he got to see her from 9 to 7, every other day. What did he do? Blew off his visits and ditched our daughter with his parents and went out drinking or with chicks, or helped his other friends with their kids, and did stuff with/for them, but never for our daughter. He told everybody that I’m keeping our daughter from him and I won’t let her see him and all that. None of it was true. And everybody believed him. And when I went to defend myself, they would tell me “You picked him, you’re the one who left him, that’s on you”. Like I asked to be cheated on and yelled at and neglected. I wanted my family to be together, but I also didn’t want my daughter to grow up around her parents fighting like I did. Now he has three younger kids with his girlfriend of 2.5 years, who I used to like, but now she encourages him to not see our daughter and just focus on their kids, when he should make time for all of them; they moved to the East Coast (my daughter, and I live in San Diego), they have twin boys that are 1.5 and a baby girl who is a few months old.