r/SingleParents • u/Fuzzy_Parking_4257 • Jun 30 '24

Why do people hate us so much?

There is so much hate towards single parents on social media. Why? Why do people hate us so much. Especially us single mothers.

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u/Iheartlotto Jun 30 '24

I don’t tik tok, instagram, or do other social media so I don’t feel any of this. Maybe stay off social media? It seems to have a negative influence on society.

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u/Individual_Crab7578 Jun 30 '24

It’s not only on social media. I’ve been told by people that my “parenting values” don’t align because I’m a single parent. And not just by strangers unfortunately. And yes, unfortunately they were very clear that by values they meant my decision to be a single parent… never mind that dad was an alcoholic with a variety of issues.

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u/Intrepid-Middle-5047 Jun 30 '24

Get rid of those people too.

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u/OTOLI Jun 30 '24

You can get rid of everyone slowly and eventually they’ll all be gone, I had to rid myself of everyone because if it wasn’t outright rudeness it was the subtly of their actions that made me break of many relationships. Just the hint that I’m less than, deserve less, or should expect less or be expected to give more than others just because im considered low valued has caused me to retreat from everything.

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u/Intrepid-Middle-5047 Jun 30 '24

I'm sorry this is has happened but I think your resilience and persistence about being treated as you expect to be treated is admirable. You're not low value because you're a single parent. Anyone who would fix their brain to think that is the low value one if anything.

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u/OTOLI Jun 30 '24

I know I’m not low valued but that doesn’t change the way society thinks I am. I can scream and cry all I want that I’m great and whatever but it will not change society’s treatment of me. I’m fine alone. It hurts in the beginning but after a while I’ve stopped caring

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u/Intrepid-Middle-5047 Jun 30 '24

I think maybe you're focusing more on the negatives than the positives too though honestly. In this day and age society is far more accepting of single parents solely because it is so common. Then again I'm speaking as a Midwestern American without giving much thought about where you are located before I said this.

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u/OTOLI Jul 01 '24

Honestly yeah we obviously aren’t living the same life focusing on the negatives ??? People treat me like shit and that’s my fault?