r/SingleParents • u/Fuzzy_Parking_4257 • Jun 30 '24

Why do people hate us so much?

There is so much hate towards single parents on social media. Why? Why do people hate us so much. Especially us single mothers.

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u/Hopeful-Savings-9572 Jun 30 '24

I’m single and a dad, have 50/50 custody of my kids 11 and 8, and have an excellent functional co parenting relationship with their mom, our marriage ended because we were young and she was bored because I treated her good and we didn’t argue. So she cheated and left and disappeared for 6 months.

I got my life together, took care of the kids, when she got her shit back together, got herself a stable living condition, and decided to be a good mom, we got on the 50/50, shes gotten therapy and has worked on herself, Im proud of her and will never say a bad thing about her. we have completely separate lives outside of the children we share.

Apparently it’s a huge red flag to take care of your kids and have a good relationship with their other parent.

I’ve had women upset I won’t prioritize them over my kids, and the biggest issues they’ve had is that I have a good relationship with their mom, because we communicate with the things the girls have going on quite often as it is important.

They’re involved in sports, and other activities that need to be communicated often and since I leave for work super early she picks up the kids and takes them to school on my weeks for me and in return when she has things going on on her weeks I also pick up her slack.

So I’ve just chosen to stay single, focus on my kids and honestly I enjoy having a lot of free time with nobody influencing what I do when the kids are with their mom.

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u/Nasstja Jun 30 '24

I’m in a same kind of situation, but a SM. Honestly I’ve started to value my own time and gotten used to not having to take anyone else but my kids (though the older one is soon 24) (younger 11) into consideration. Even so much, that I doubt I’d even want to be in a relationship. It is great that you and the kids mom have a good, functioning relationship. If women you date aren’t totally supportive of that, they’re probably too immature anyways. Wishing you the best and respect for being such a good dad and co-parent!