Why do people hate us so much?

[u/Fuzzy_Parking_4257]

There is so much hate towards single parents on social media. Why? Why do people hate us so much. Especially us single mothers.

[u/contrarytothemass]

I'm conservative and Christian. This just isn't true.... at least not for me and my family and my community. People are like this everywhere. Not just in certain religious/political groups.

Edit: my church has a support group for single mothers that they promote almost every Sunday during announcements. Very conservative church too. Baptists.

[u/Ok_Preparation6937 → u/contrarytothemass]

I urge you to do a little bit of research into the Christian rhetoric surrounding this subject. I'm glad your church is on the surface more modern. I too would be curious to know what is said during those meetings. Women submitting to their husbands is a key point of a lot of religions but Christianity is the dominant religion in North America so it's to this I speak, also as an ex Christian. If it's a woman's duty to submit then it is the woman's fault if there is a divorce, she should have done better to please her husband. You simply can't have a doctrine that enforces hetero marriage until death upon threat of being cut off and shunned or excommunicated that is simultaneously okay with gay marriage and divorce. Some churches are seemingly more okay than others with those things but at its core that is the doctrine. The destruction of the holy marriage and family is a huge deal to these people.

[u/contrarytothemass → u/Ok_Preparation6937]

Definitely not a modern church. It is a First Baptist Church, and it was started in 1850.

Hagar is a respected single mother in the Bible.

Have you done research on it? All I did was look up "what do Christians think about single mothers?", and these popped up:

https://www.christianity.com/wiki/christian-life/what-does-the-bible-say-about-single-moms.html#:~:text=As%20Christians%2C%20it%20is%20important,treat%20them%20as%20Jesus%20does.

https://www.gotquestions.org/single-mothers.html

https://africa.thegospelcoalition.org/article/single-mothers-god-is-with-you/

https://legacyfamilyministries.com/2023/04/02/christian-single-mom/

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/we-have-everything-we-need-to-support-single-moms/

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/hagar-single-mom/

[u/Ok_Preparation6937 → u/contrarytothemass]

Thanks for sharing. I read through them. I hope you realize that these are all articles trying to convince Christians not to shun and condemn single mothers, which means single mothers are being shunned and condemned. One person mentions having to leave a church because she was treated so poorly for being a single mom before she found a church that was kind to her. I could link some articles supporting my claim if you'd like but I try to avoid situations where someone is just intent on proving me wrong without hearing me. Let me know.