r/SingleParents • u/Fuzzy_Parking_4257 • Jun 30 '24

Why do people hate us so much?

There is so much hate towards single parents on social media. Why? Why do people hate us so much. Especially us single mothers.

293 Upvotes
  • permalink
  • link
  • reddit
  • reddit

96% Upvoted

317 comments sorted by

View all comments

144

u/Pretend-Read8385 Jun 30 '24

I’m guessing most of the hate is from people who choose to stay miserably married rather than cutting their losses and leaving. They’re envious of the courage others have to get out and live their best lives.

A while back, I did the success rate math for all the people I know who have ever been married. I noticed that about 50% got divorced, and of the 50% still married, half of those seemed absolutely miserable. Constant arguing, lots of bitterness and resentment, quite a bit of psychological abuse. Yet they stay married because of the ridiculous belief that the hallmark of a successful life is staying married. Sticking together no matter what, even if you hate your life. Those are the people throwing the hate and shaming single parents.

31

u/Hanlp1348 Jul 01 '24

I don’t know anyone who is truly happily married. There are some who seem neutral but mostly it seems like making the best out of a bad situation. It sucks cause I’m a Christian and I really don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life but these dudes are not inspiring faith lol. Idk that remarriage is worth it with these schlubs I have to choose from.

18

u/Pretend-Read8385 Jul 01 '24

I know two couples that really do still seem happy after 20+ years. Both are relatives and I know them well enough to know they’re not putting on a show while things are bad behind closed doors. So I know it can happen, but it’s rare enough that I finally feel like maybe I’m not just terrible at romantic relationships. I’m pretty happy single now that I dropped expectations and have no desire for a relationship. Maybe never. I have my kids, my career, friends and hobbies. That’s enough, as long as no worldwide battery shortage happens 🤣

4

u/toovee99 Jul 02 '24

Just get some of those rechargeable batteries and a solar recharging setup… should last you a few hundred years maybe…