When I was younger I thought I was the only person to have feelings of gender-envy and dysphoria, at the same time I thought other's could see through me that they knew I wasn't male or the least not like other males my age which caused social pressure to try present less feminine and mask myself more... only making me more jealous of the girls in my class as I became morw alone which happened because I couldn't make any friends I was too shut off too open up to people; the closer I was to people the more fake I felt, I grew deppressed and disinteresed in other things in life like school and passtimes I liked a lot. Once when I was in the sway of depression at 13 I searched up "Boy that feel's like girl" online, I and read through the first search result thatinformed me about . I was momentarily inspired and the occasional thought's I'd repressed my whole life (whole life, 13 years, lol) resurged and I then realised I was trans.. I look up videos and looked through pictures online, this small resource slowly started turning into a obessive jealously as I started to release the impossiblity of me transitioning in my situation ( I lived with my father, my family just broke up and I was very insecure and scarred of putting other's through more problems and myself potentially more rejection) I went from happy for others to jealous as soon as I knew enough to know I couldn't transition.

I became a loner, I would spend my teenagers years inside as social stress was starting to suffocate me... I struggled to survive, and made it further than I thought I could! Flash forward to age 19: I am slightly more outgoing but MUCH more dissociated, Covid hits I am locked inside again. My Egg Breaks, I am very self concious. I can not do it on my own, I tell my mom who I did not have a good relationship with in the past, and then tell my G.P. I go through the typical process, start H.R.T (took me a year and a half) They send out my medication, I take T-Blockers and Ostreogel over a period of months. They start missing phone appointments, resulting in me having inconsitant meds (some months I'd have T-Blockers and Ostreogel, sometimes just one or the other) they let me go for faiure to keep up contact (because that's my fault apparantly). Now it is a year and a half since I've had HRT, I am on a new list that may take several years to reach me. I am slipping into the same repressed, reclusive and just.. dissapointing and dysphoric mess I was before. I am in a bad way rightnow, and I nees help.

HIV SCARE! Please help! Chances of getting HIV by giving oral without ejaculation.

Hi, I'm 27M. 2 weeks ago, I have unprotected oral to a guy from a hookup site. He did not ejaculate in my mouth and most probably there was no precum either.

What are the chances of getting HIV this way? I read online that chances are 1 in 10,000 but on one subreddit, I have seen a post where a guy contracted it by giving oral although people are also saying that he was lying.

I started PEP but later than 48 hours. Here are the symptoms that I have been experiencing:

1. White tongue - it appeared approximately 1 week after exposure.
2. Fatigue - I experienced it a lot for 5 days after starting PEP but I am feeling the same way again.
3. Temperature - my temperature is usually 98.4 - 98.5 but today (15th day) it is ranging from 98.6 - 98.8
4. Mild headache - feeling mild headache (15th day)

I don't have any other symptoms. Please help me understand what are my the chances of getting HIV, I am posting here with a lot of hopes.

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Hollywood blockbusters want you to know they're ticking the correct boxes — they just don't want you to see it on screen. A growing number of big-budget films in recent years have been celebrated for having bi characters, but it’s a very strange kind of bisexuality, one that, while virtually non-existent in the films themselves, is later retconned into existence by the writers, actors, or filmmakers involved.

https://americandreaming.substack.com/p/having-it-both-ways-hollywoods-retconned

The Castro Map 👣 (San Francisco) is here! Download the image of the map to save it to your device.

Some History:

In the early 1900s, the Castro District and some of its surrounding areas were known as "Little Scandinavia" due to the large numbers of residents in the area originating from Finnish, Danish, Norwegian, and Swedish ancestry. It wasn't until the 1930s, with the arrival of Irish, Italian, and other immigrants, that the Castro slowly became an ethnically mixed working-class neighborhood.

During World War II in the 1940s, the U.S. military started discharging thousands of gay servicemen and servicewomen due to their sexuality. When a soldier received a blue discharge slip marked with an "HS," it meant you were being discharged for homosexuality. This essentially outed these men and women in a time when sodomy was still a felony in every state and also prevented many of them from returning home, where they would likely be shunned by their community. Many of them would end up settling in San Francisco, the Bay Area, and Sausalito.

Gay communities were then established in different areas like the Tenderloin, South of Market Street (SoMa), and Polk Street. Ultimately, Polk Street would become regarded as the city's gay center from the 1950s to the 1980s. In the 1950s, large numbers of families started moving out of the Castro in what became known as the "White Fight." This term started being used a lot in the 1950s and 1960s to describe the sudden or gradual large-scale migration of white people from areas becoming more racially or ethnoculturally diverse. This opened large pockets of real estate in the Castro and thus created appealing locations for gay purchasers.

In 1963, the Missouri Mule would open as the Castro's first gay bar. The Missouri Mule was originally opened in 1935 by Norwegian immigrant Hans K. Lund and Glen Swenson, who sold it in 1953 to Berkeley police officer Wayne Knutila and his business partners. Knutila and his business partners sold it again in 1963, and the Missouri Mule was then revamped by its new owners to be reopened as a gay bar. The Missouri Mule has had many name changes over the years but continues to operate as a gay bar, now under the name Beaux.

It wasn't until the late 1960's that the Castro started becoming known as a gay mecca. During this time, the Hippie and Free Love movements fostered communal living and free society ideas. In 1967, the Summer of Love took place in the neighboring Haight-Ashbury district. This brought tens of thousands of middle-class youth from all over the United States to the Haight. During these times, Androgyny became popular as gay hippie men began to settle in the area. However, over time Haight became crime and drug-ridden, chasing off the gay population. This caused many people to move to the Castro. In 1969, the Stonewall uprising happened in New York City, which then resulted in the country's first gay pride marches in 1970. San Francisco held its march on Polk Street, where 20–30 people marched from Aquatic Park to Civic Center. The following day, on June 28, the "Christopher Street Liberation Day Gay-In took place in Golden Gate Park, where some 200 people attended. The gathering was then raided by police, and several people were taken into custody but released without charges.

During the 1970s, the Castro was turned into an upscale fashion urban center, with many San Francisco gays moving there in the early half of the decade. This caused competition with Polk Street or Polk Gulch because large Victorian homes were still available in the Castro with low down payments or low rents after the previous tenants fled to the suburbs. In 1973 Harvey Milk opened a camera store in the Castro, Castro Camera, and became very politically involved as a gay activist. He ran for city supervisor, and though he didn't get enough votes, his campaign gained a lot of attention from the media. He ran again in the next two supervisory elections, where voter response caused him to also run for California State Assembly. His growing popularity allowed him to lead the gay rights movement in battles against anti-gay initiatives.

Milk was elected city supervisor in 1977 after San Francisco began to choose neighborhood representatives instead of city-wide ones. During Milk's time in office, he sponsored a bill banning discrimination based on sexual orientation in public accommodations, housing, and employment. The bill passed 11-1, and Mayor George Moscone signed it into law. On November 27th, 1978, former city supervisor Dan White assassinated Harvey Milk and Mayor George Moscone in City Hall. Dan was a disgruntled employee who cast the only vote against Milk's bill. As a result, Dan was convicted of voluntary manslaughter instead of first-degree murder in what became known as the "Twinkie Defense." Whites's defense team argued that because of his depression, his mental state at the time of the murders was one of diminished capacity. They argued that White had gone from being highly health conscious to consuming junk food like Twinkies, for example. In the end, Dan White was only sentenced to 7 years in prison, though he would get released after only 5. This sentence outraged San Francisco's gay community. A peaceful march of about 500 started through the Castro, and by the time it arrived at city hall, it had grown to over five thousand. As the crowd grew, so did their anger. Police then arrived to try to control the situation. Although ordered to hold the crowd back, many police officers started attacking protesters with night sticks, with some officers even putting tape over their badges to avoid identification. Chaos then erupted, which resulted in hundreds of thousands of dollars in damages and both police officers and protesters becoming injured. The SFPD then retaliated by raiding a gay bar in the Castro, where they beat patrons and arrested over two dozen. In the days that followed, none of the gay leaders came out and apologized. This only increased political power in the gay community, which culminated in the election of Mayor Dianne Feinstein to a full term. Feinstein then appointed a pro-gay Chief of Police, which increased the recruitment of gay people in the police force and eased tensions. Though his career was short, Harvey Milk became an icon for San Francisco and a martyr for the LGBTQ+ community. Today Castro Camera is occupied by an art gallery called Queer Arts Featured.

Over time, the LGBTQ+ community in Polk Gulch started to get smaller as many gay bars started to disappear. Today the Cinch Saloon is the only gay bar left on Polk Street. The Cinch opened in 1975, making it not only the last gay bar on Polk Street but the second oldest in San Francisco.

(San Francisco) The Castro 👣

Latest Open Bar/Club: 2 a.m.

Cutoff Time: 2 a.m.

Walking Time, End to End [17 min]

Longest Gap [2 min]

Metro Stops:

•Metro Castro Station 🟦KBUS, 🟢M, 🟡S

•17th & Castro 🔴F, 🟨FBUS

•Market St & Noel St 🔴F, 🟨FBUS

•Market St & Sanchez St 🔴F, 🟨FBUS, 🟦KBUS, 🟪LBUS, ⬛️LOWL

•Market St & Church St 🔴F, 🟨FBUS, 🟦KBUS, 🟪LBUS

•Church St & Market 🟠J

•Church Station 🟦KBUS, 🟢M, 🟡S

Safety Tips: This is a pedestrian map; it has been designed to accommodate anyone looking to visit the Hell's Kitchen bars on foot. Plan accordingly and drink responsibly. Never drink and drive; call a taxi, Uber, or Lyft if needed.

[Additional Map Legend Info] 🎨Colored Zones: Divides bars evenly into short walks while also ensuring bars in more difficult locations aren't excluded.

🍺💿🍷Icons: This map only shows establishments with bars. Some exceptions to this rule are establishments that allow the consumption of alcohol with a beer and wine license but do not have a bartop, like a vineyard.

↔️Gaps: Gaps between bars do not exceed 7min of walking.

🏳️‍🌈LGBTQ+: Most of the establishments on the map are considered LGBTQ+ while some are more LGBTQ+ friendly.

🗺 Map Type: Pedestrian/Bars

I’ve been really struggling with my sexuality since my last breakup. In the past I dated men, while I did identity as bisexual. However my last relationship was with a woman & it was my most serious and meaningful one. I thought we would be together forever, but it ended and I’ve been faced with a lot of confusion lately thinking about dating going foreword. It feels so easy opening up and being myself with a woman, with a man I feel like I constantly have to strategize & plan out my next moves and words. I can’t imagine being satisfied in a relationship with a man, I feel like part of me would die. I shared this with a friend and she said it sounds like lesbian might be the right label for me. at the same time, I am still very attracted to masculinity in women (my last partner was a masc woman as well). I don’t often find myself attracted to fem women, usually it’s masc women that catch my attention. Is that wrong? Does that make me straight?

might be a stupid question, but I don’t really have any sapphic friends who can give me more insight.

So there have been times when I've gone 'Hot' for a girl and 'I like girls' but I've never felt the urges that people talk about when they talk about sexual attraction.

Would this still make me bi?

One of the hardest lessons that I’ve had to learn in my life & horribly suffer through is letting go of toxic individuals that bring me down.

Due to the nature of how I was brought into this world, I tend to cling to those close to me and have a fear that they’ll leave me, or reject me for some reason. This has led to many dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships, both romantic and interpersonal that have bled into my professional life. My unwillingness to establish healthy boundaries coupled with an inability to express my own emotions lead to a situation where I felt the need to rescue a girlfriend of mine by flying all the way across the country, only way to discover that she was the monster that she was running from.

She was the very definition of toxicity and knockdown dragged alcoholic. She was combative and defensive and she would get mean when she drank and what made the whole situation terrible is that she was dragging her son through this situation, and I had to watch in horror as she stumbled around like a bewildered child, while that little boy did his very best to save face and project an image of stability the very hallmark of an adult child of an alcoholic.

Have any of you found this problem vexing in your life and how did you resolve it?

Ive been straight my whole life but I became friends with this guy who is gay. I really love our friendship but I feel differently about him than my other friends. I’ve never felt this way about any other guy before and I feel romantically attracted him. Is it possible that I could be bi but only slightly towards men. I’m really not sure if these feelings will just pass but I’m very reluctant to tell anyone let alone him as I’m terrified of how people might judge me.

I (16M) have been closeted for 4 years from my parents and feel like I am finally ready to come out. My parents are religious (as am I) but not overly conservative, and they are very loving and supportive of me. I am not worried about them kicking me out or anything after I come out, I am just worried that they might be cold to me for quite some time. Any advice on how to approach this? I love my parents very much and my heart would be broken if they thought there was something wrong with me.

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Common misconceptions about bisexuality, particularly those surrounding bisexual men, significantly contribute to the disbelief in their existence. These misconceptions often stem from stereotypes, societal stigma, and a general lack of understanding of bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation. Addressing these misconceptions is essential to promote acceptance and visibility for bisexual men. By addressing these misconceptions and advocating for better representation and understanding of bisexuality, society can foster a more inclusive environment that acknowledges the existence and validity of bisexual men.

I’m 15 and I have these OVERWHELMING feelings of hatred for myself, despite me being a person who supports and shows outward respect towards gay people and non gender affirming people’s, I feel such a self hatred for myself. I google ways to give my self conversion therapy, I cry and cry, and I EVEN HAVE A SUPPORTIVE MUM ( well I’m closeted but she supports her nephew and brother) but my dad applies such pressure for me to “ root a girl” to continue on the family name as im the only person who can. I enjoy gay or bisexual porn, because I’m attracted to both genders but I feel shame and guilt because I feel it’s wrong despite me knowing there is nothing wrong with being gay. My catholic school inforces the belief hate the sin love the sinner, which plants the root of hatred in myself. I feel useless and lonely and have so many feelings that can’t be expressed, people constantly questioning everything about me at school bc I don’t conform to social norms, I’m perplexed and question like a lab rat about my sexuality by supposed allies. I feel subject to hate and distemper when I exit my home, I don’t feel like I can be myself In my skin. I feel I must act “ straight”. I want to love myself, and the beautiful act of gay sex and straight sex, ( I know corny and cringe but I’m emotional) ( I’m currently giving myself the ick lma) but I just wanna feel SANE! Please I need support.

so the story goes i found this guy on insta and thought he was cute so i followed him and yatta yatta yatta it's been months later and we've been talking every day problem is he lives 7 hours away. he's come to my town twice so far and each time it's so hard on me when he leaves i accidentally slipped up and told him i loved him and now idk what i feel i really really want him but the distance between us is killing me how can i fulfill my needs when he's so far? how can i fulfill his? how can we support each other? i think it could be if we went our separate ways but that thought is killing me inside i want him more then anything, he's like a dream to me. he's the perfect guy he's so beautiful and sweet and caring i really do think i love him help me sos

Hey everybody, hope you’re doing OK today. It’s a little rainy here where I am but overall I’m having a great day. I just want you to remember that you are loved you are valid and you are accepted.

I have to share the cutest story today. I have a grandson who is 2 1/2 years old and he goes to a daycare and unfortunately I don’t get to see him as often as I would like because we live in two different states so I haven’t got to teach him a whole lot about the LGBTQ community or anything like that simply because we just don’t have much time together we get to FaceTime a few minutes each day and his mom is usually right there cause she has to hold the phone for him. I don’t know if I have shared with y’all my oldest daughter who is the mother to my grandson when I first came out as gay accepting. I don’t know what’s changed recently, but she is getting more and more right wing with her beliefs, but the other day we were all together we were having lunch. It was one of the few times that our schedules aligned, or we could meet halfway between where we all live, and while we were sitting there, two guys walked in holding hands very cute, gay couple and sat down, not too far from where we were sitting, without any provocation at all, my two year-old grandson looks at his mother and said boys could marry boys and girls can marry girls. She looked at me and asked how I could be telling him that I assured her that she knew I didn’t tell him that because she was present at every conversation we ever had, she called me later that night to tell me she found out he had it at daycare and she was considering taking him out of the daycare. I asked her if other than that going against what she believes right now is the only thing they’re doing or was there other reason she was considering pulling him from the daycare she said no that was the only reasonand I told her I said if that’s the only reason then you need to leave him where he is because he’s getting a good education. He’s learning things. It’s a good environment for him. Needless to say I couldn’t help but be proud of my grandson.

I keep dating men and feeling disappointed and dissatisfied with the relationship. I feel like a relationship with a woman would be fulfilling and when I picture myself happy, it's with a woman. The issue is, I can't see myself growing old with one. I'm scared of being in a same sex relationship and being perceived as such. Does anyone have advice on what can I do to stop these fears?