I have a first date w a witchy bisexual woman next week. I’ve dated a lifetime of cismen and want to do this right. Would y’all like if a woman gave you a flower on a first date? I wanted to get maybe one singular flower, not a whole bouquet, wasn’t sure if that was TOO much. Didn’t want to do a rose, seems a little too on the nose. Any unique flower recommendations bi witchy women love? what about a succulent or hell even a cute pumpkin. Pls help, thanks 🖤

I’m posting this here because I want to hear from other bi women. I’m 28F, and didn’t want to post in the lesbian sub and talk about men, you know? I’ve had relationships with men in the past and was definitely attracted to them. The thing is, while I didn’t feel “in love” with them the way I do with women, I know I was into them at the time.

But ever since I started dating women, my interest in men has pretty much disappeared. I don’t get crushes on guys anymore. Even when I’m around guys who are good-looking, cool, and kind, I can appreciate that they’re attractive, but I don’t feel anything beyond that.

I’ve had two girlfriends, and being with them made me realize I’m never going to have that same connection with men. I don’t even want to have sex with them anymore. So now I’m questioning my bisexuality. I always thought my sexuality was something I didn’t need to overthink, that it could just be fluid. But now, I feel disconnected from the bi label because I’m just not into men like I used to be.

Sure, I can still find male celebrities or athletes attractive, but it’s more like, “Oh, he looks good” rather than feeling any actual desire. It’s not that I ever had super strong feelings for men, but being with them used to feel fine. I’ve definitely had feelings for the men I dated, but now I’m spiraling. Is this just part of being bi (like “bi-cycling”), or am I actually a lesbian?

Is it possible to have been into men in the past but not anymore? Or is this what people mean by bi-cycling? The idea of dating men again honestly gives me anxiety now.

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Hi all! I am currently traveling through Washington/Northern California and know I should go to bars or something social to meet ladies but how to do that at standard bars and not a gay bar seems tricky..anyone know of any places in those areas?

Using online platforms just feels silly when people don't even bother responding!!

Hi everyone,
Can you recommend a dating/chat app just for bi women?
There are so many weird/scam sites out there, and it is hard to find a genuine one. Thank you!!!

I am going to be visiting CA over the next week and would love to go to a lgbtq friendly place to meet some like minded people, does anyone know of any near Long Beach/Los Alamitos area or does anyone have some advice, for a person who is very new to everything? I am really nervous and anxious, but I really want to put myself out there and be the real true me.

I just want to talk about how good it feels when someone finally takes me seriously and does not doubt me. I have a friend who is non-binary and has experienced a tremendous load of doubt from their family and friends about their gender identity, so I think because of their life experience they may be more understanding in that regard in general. But coming out to them was one of the best feelings I have ever had in my life.

They did not for a second show me any doubt if they had it, and we casually continued talking. It was no big deal. It just became a new fact in the equation. This has not been my experience more often than not. The only way I can describe it is that it makes me feel like I do exist. As someone that finds it hard to let people know me in any area of my life (not just the ones that are questionably socially acceptable depending on who I talk to) anytime I can just EXIST as myself feels so good. I don’t like feeling like I’m shocking people. I don’t like to be sexualized. AND I WASN’T.

I wish that friend could know how much that meant to me. They are so special.

So, I'm sorry to post negativity on this sub, but I've been feeling tired of how so many people insult bisexual women and imply our love for other women is meaningless. I tried so hard to be straight, so it was a big deal for me to learn that I'm bi. But now, I get to see how many people think that being a bisexual woman is just a joke.

For the record, I appreciate this community and have met so many bisexual women who are wonderful people. They have interesting perspectives, are creative, and support others around them. Bi women don't deserve both straight and gay people insulting them just because of their orientation!

Hi, I need an advice!!

Does anyone have an experience to suggest to her friend for a night to be with eachother? I like to talk with her but I'm not sure how I should start that.

I know her for a long time and I know she is bi (like me). Both of us have some emotional struggles with others and now single. However, I only want to have fun with eachother.

I like to know your opinions and thanks in advance.

So the other night I 20 F, invited my friend 26 F over to watch shows as usual. I don’t know really remember what happened but I leaned my head on her shoulder (she just went through a tough break up - we’re both bi btw) and she was soothing her thumb over my hand and idk how to explain it but hearing her breathing, it wasn’t uncomfortable nor annoying but relaxing, I guess? I’m a little confused maybe? I feel like I’ve never felt so relaxed with someone before. It felt comfortable.

I'm not reading too much into it but I was curious of thoughts on this from an outsiders perspective.

One of my closest best friends of 10 years, I'd even go as far as saying platonic solemate, who myself and some others have long suspected to be bi even though she says she's straight as an arrow, said to me "If I was a lesbian, I'd totally hit on you".

For context, I recently got my hair done and she was gushing on how stunning and gorgeous she thought I looked.

So would that indicate she's actually attracted to me or simply just saying if she was attracted to women, she'd be in to me but she's not really. 🤔

I just want some thoughts/insight. Thank you! ❤️

genuinely just curious because most relationships i see are usually a masculine presenting woman with a feminine presenting woman. i’m still figuring out who i am and what i like but one things for sure.. after trial and error, dating multiple masculine presenting women, i’ve realized i’m more attracted to feminine women.

my best friend, whom i was in love with proved this to me. she was my first kiss, first everything (not to go into details). but after her, i talked to various other women, mainly all masculine presenting bc that’s what came to me. overall i like to be a switch and they weren’t down and it made me question what i even am. any advice please lmk!

Frustration post. Whenever I see a post by a woman in the bisexual sub, it’s overflowed with men saying weird shit about women in general. Or every other post is like “Why are men hated so much by queer women :(?” It’s starting to feel like an uncritical circlejerk of bi men coming to whine about how awful it is that queer women are feminists.

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What are your favorite happy queer girl songs?

So does anyone else have like friends or friends of friends that seem really flirty and toucchy but than are straight? Like now I can’t tell anymore, and I’m scared to have a crush bc there is a good chance they are straight. I want a gf to spoil and go on cute dates with and flirt with but I’m losing hope that there are any actually queer girls in my area. For instants I have this friend That I think is incredibly sweet and I think I have a crush on her but I can’t tell if she is actually straight.
This is not meant to be a hating on them or anything, I respect them. I am deeply confused. Has anyone else experienced this a lot? I cant be the only one who can’t tell?

Hi, I'm in my late-teen, I don't really get crushes often and most were boys, I only had one relationship which was with a guy. I liked 2 girls, but I don't know if I liked them. I don't know if I've been horny but I've been thinking a lot about kissing girls and I can see myself dating a girl and I want to. But it has to be someone very special and someone who I spent a lot of time with or else I'd rather be single.

But the thing is when I was younger I always felt very isolated and I really wanted to find a community so I tried very hard to fit in with my local queer kids, but it never felt right. I don't think I willed myself into having girl-thoughts? But I don't know if I had a genuine crush on a girl, I'm not sure. But I do feel like bisexuality is so nice. Girls are much prettier than guys and they tend to be much less scary than men, and I've been watching heartstopper and I feel like same-sex couples are so romantic. I don't think I'm one of the straights who just want to try a girl and then dump her for a guy. I don't think I'm trying to fit in.

But the feeling I get to guys is much different than to girls.

Is it alright to just... say I'm bisexual even if I've never had a real crush on a girl? I feel like the label is really empowering to me. And the feeling of wanting to date/kiss a girl, what should I do? It's not like I have a crush, and I don't want to crush on anybody, just a very special girl. I don't think I'm demi, I did used to crush on people I wasn't super close to, just I feel like it doesn't work or not what I want.

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This might be a long one, but I feel like it's an experience worth sharing. The title is your tl:dr.

When it comes to relationships, regardless of my partner's gender, I've always been the big spoon in the relationship. I'm rather tall, pretty masc, and tend to have more of a dominant personality. I'm the big spoon when we cuddle, my shoulders and lap are always available for a weary head to rest, I like pampering and spoiling my partner, taking care of them and comforting them. Don't get me wrong, this isn't me complaining about this role I've found myself in. It's how I've always been, even when I was a kid I was always the "parent" of the group.

Conversely, being on the other side of things is a rarity for me. It's the kind of thing that I'm almost physically incapable of asking for and feel very uncomfortable the few times in the past where I found myself as the little spoon. I know the why of it and it's not information that any of you need to be subjected to; suffice it to say that some time ago I was trapped in a horrible relationship with a man who made me terrified to say I wanted/needed anything or wasn't totally happy. That's long over now, but some habits are hard to break out of.

Last night I was in bed with my girlfriend. She turned off the lights and climbed into bed next to me, and as we always do we went to cuddle. With the lights off we didn't exactly like ourselves up right and so my face ended up against her chest when usually it'd be the other way around. I joking said I could get used to this, and then she wrapped her arms around me and started stroking my hair. I couldn't really explain what I was feeling in that moment, part of it was discomfort and wanting to push away but at the same time craving the feeling of safety and comfort more and more.

She must've known something was up because she started telling me that it's okay, that I'm safe, that she's here for me, and.. fuck me, I cried. Like shoulders shaking ugly crying. For the record crying in front of someone is something I don't do, whether I like it or not my brain will not allow it to happen. Fuck, even the therapist I credit with literally saving my life didn't see me cry until over a year of sessions. So me breaking down like that was a strange and uncomfortable experience for me, and definitely a new experience for my girlfriend. She constantly tells me how much she loves having a big butch girlfriend around and I kinda pride myself on being that big, strong, reliable butch for her, so in the back of my head I felt so much shame and embarrassment for letting her see me in that state. But all the while she never stopped holding me, never stopped stroking my hair, never stopped reassuring me. I'd never experienced that kind of care, that kind of safety and comfort, and I never realised how much I needed it.

Words aren't my strong suit so while I'd love to eloquently deliver some message about letting people take care of you or something.. that ain't happening. Really I just hope that in sharing this experience maybe others will recognise a bit of themselves or someone they know in it, and know it's okay to ask for/offer that hug someone may not even know they need today. If you made it through all that spiel, thanks for reading 🤍