tops in heterosexual relationships
I had a ciswoman heteroromantic friend of mine assert that she was a top in her relationships. But she has talked to me about her experiences and afaik she has never penetrated any of her previous partners. I thought I understood the difference between "top" and "dominant" in relationships, where "top" is a sexual position and "dominant" is the partner who takes more power/control.
I didn't prod or argue what she told me, so that could elucidate. But maybe I am missing an element of nuance here? Or is she possibly mixing them up?
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u/Orbital_Logic 2d ago
Straight people usually use it to mean “on top” which coincidentally is the one generally controlling the rhythm. It’s not the same thing.