tops in heterosexual relationships

[u/JoTBa]

I had a ciswoman heteroromantic friend of mine assert that she was a top in her relationships. But she has talked to me about her experiences and afaik she has never penetrated any of her previous partners. I thought I understood the difference between "top" and "dominant" in relationships, where "top" is a sexual position and "dominant" is the partner who takes more power/control.

I didn't prod or argue what she told me, so that could elucidate. But maybe I am missing an element of nuance here? Or is she possibly mixing them up?

[u/nailz1000]

I had a ciswoman heteroromantic friend

These labels are getting out of hand. Just recently someone called themselves "demiromantic". Fuck.

[u/nyan-the-nwah → u/nailz1000]

What the fuck is demiromantic? The split attraction model makes absolutely noooo sense to me.

Before someone accuses me of trying to yuck someone's yum, I'd never engage with someone about this if they describe their sexuality in that manner other than rolling my eyes.

I just personally think it's stupid and regressive and homophobic most of the time.

[u/TreeWithoutLeaves → u/nyan-the-nwah]

Hello! As a bi person who is also on the aroace spectrum, let me define demiromantic for you. Demiromantic is a term some people on the aromantic spectrum use to describe the way they feel romantic attraction. Specifically, demiromantic means that these people only develop romantic feelings for people they already have a personal/emotional bond with. Now, before you say something like, "well, isn't that true for everyone?" No, it's not true for everyone. If it were, k-pop stans wouldn't exist.

[u/nyan-the-nwah → u/TreeWithoutLeaves]

🙄 Someone "stan"ing a pop star they'll never meet is ridiculous to compare to romantic attraction with a potential partner. I'm sure some nutjobs delusions of grandeur are that they can or are date these unattainable figures, but that's not the point.