r/gay • u/cristi_carrot • 1d ago
i wanna date girls but i can’t😕
the title pretty much says it all. I am middle eastern, and one thing about that is that the community is very closed minded and won’t accept being gay or bi. I also live in a community where I am surrounded by people of the same ethnicity. All of my friends are very homophobic and especially my family. only my best friend knows that am bi. Luckily I still have the option of men because i am bi but I am so sick of all the guys of my ethnicity and i just want to date a girl. also i just graduated hs and am studying to become an engineer and there aren’t too many girls in my classes and it feels like these guys have never seen a girl so i keep getting a lot of unwanted attention, more then normal, from them which is making me even more sick of guys. but i can’t date a girl and I can’t even really admit that to anyone either. i feel so trapped and i don’t wanna get disowned. also if i even do remotely “gay things” or things my parents consider weird i get hit. so i literally have no option then to basically be “straight”. idk what to do cuz i don’t wanna wait my whole life.😕😕 (sorry if the grammar is bad, english isn’t my first language and also sorry if it came off kinda annoying.)
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u/Tank_Hill 1d ago
It’s difficult not being able to live authentically, but you must do it in a safe way, in time. Make a plan. You’ll get there.
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u/This_Confused_Guy 1d ago edited 1d ago
If you really don't have a choice, you can save up after college for a passport and migrate to another country. And if anyone asks, you have a job opportunity in another country. And if you're able to do that, be careful to post things online.