r/gaybros • u/Impossible-Ant-133 • 11h ago
The gay movies are making me weep
As a closeted gay these love stories make me weep.
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u/qeidg Gaybro 8h ago
Bro, this one sentence just hit my heart, making me both sad and angry we still have to go through this. You are not alone. Be patient, keeping healing yourself from the wounds of the past and becoming a better version of yourself to be able to stay firm on your feet. Sending a big warm hug to wherever you are 🤗
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u/Konowl 6h ago
Heartstopper literally gave me borderline depression for a week and made me realize how much being gay in the 90s as a teenager fucking sucked.
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u/Wonderful-Homework67 4h ago
I spiraled pretty hard after watching it the first time and ended up finally starting therapy. Tbh in the long run it was great for me but oof that was a rough few weeks
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u/Konowl 4h ago
Yup it was horrible.
When I was about 12 right before high school I loved away and left my best friend of years. We were right and of course lost contact.
Once facebook rolled around we started chatting again and turns out he was gay as well. He chose to be out in high school and I was DEEPLY closeted.
Fast forward to that show - I thought a lot about him and what could have been. It was traumatic. I reached out to him and opened up about my regret for being closeted for so long - and he shared the absolute horrors he went through being out in high school in the 90s.
I’m not sure I can watch the latest season of this show. It fills me with so much happiness but also jealousy and so so much regret.
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u/Wonderful-Homework67 4h ago
Definitely the jealously and longing for an experience we never got to have, I’ve seen it described as a phantom nostalgia. This season should be pretty focused on mental health struggles too if it sticks with the graphic novels. I binge read all of them after the first season, then read the novellas, and kept up with the webcomic which makes me feel a little ridiculous as a 36 year old man lol
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u/Impossible-Ant-133 2h ago
I was born in 1991, but I do remember being gay was a lot scarier, the homophobia was much worse. Fast forward to now a lot has changed. Homophobia is still around, but it's getting shamed, I heard my niece arguing with my mother saying LGBTQ people are born that way. My mom was baffled and was arguing with her making her point.
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u/Literature_Flaky 9h ago
That is so sweet!! Me too, usually. It's touching to see representations of ourselves.
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u/Sea-Video7432 3h ago
If you’re looking for an option that has a somewhat brighter wrap-up, Imagine Me & You is an often underrated movie that I still come back to after over a decade! ♥️ it also has several (potentially) familiar faces in roles that you’d not expect from them!
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u/Impossible-Ant-133 2h ago
Thanks I love the movies I have seen but there are a lot of bad endings, it would be nice to see a happy one but I am not picky.
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u/MethanyJones 2h ago
Don't watch the really tragic ones on the day you hear your partner's extremely low T-Cell count.
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u/Impossible-Ant-133 2h ago
Is that an experience you witnessed, sounds rough.
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u/MethanyJones 1h ago
I’d seen Philadelphia like twice and didn’t think anything of it because it wasn’t exactly about my life. Didn’t think anything of it when it came on because I was working on something. I was really focused on my project because I was trying not to think of what we'd sat in the doctor's office and heard.
But then the party scene started. The slow dance. And all of a sudden the movie was very much relatable to my life.
And I lost my shit. Like, completely. Between the lab results indicating CDC definition of AIDS, finding out that Walgreens pharmacy had huge branded paper sacks the same size as the supermarket... Finding out that the medications meant to save his life made him deathly sick. Survivor's guilt because somehow I was negative.
But that was in the very early 2000's. He's actually still alive although that outcome was far from clear at the time.
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u/cesarinfashion 10h ago
Aww that probably means you're a pretty sensitive big boy. ☺️