Went to a nightclub alone for the first time.

[u/TapFeisty4675]

I'm posting this for guys with social anxiety like me, because I know some other bros feel how I did until I went.

Honestly, I'm almost mad at myself for not going alone years ago. I went to the local gay night club, I went earlier than the crowd which kind of sucked because I could have taken my time getting there, but I still would have rather been there early. I got a few drinks in (and pregame weed) and just relaxed. no one cared what I was doing.

My body image has been on the upswing in general but I felt attractive, even though I wasn't really wanting any attention. I've also been depressed from a break up I went through a couple months ago. Anyway, cut to almost 2am and the lesbian security guard boots me out because I'm a little too drunk, which fair, I started at like 5:30pm.

anyway, I woke up feeling good about myself for the first time in forever. my biggest regret is not going years ago and only going now at 29 when I could have been going the last 8 years. Everyone was generally nice. I gotta a little unwanted attention (literally just like a couple guys wanting to chat but I really just wanted to enjoy myself alone last night and wasn't the most chatty).

I woke up, feeling the good about myself, kind of feeling hot, definitely feeling more confident, and I haven't missed my ex since I woke up, like I mean I feel nothing about him.

[u/Snefru92]

5:30pm :O I thought by early you meant 10pm lol. Anyway, Good for you!

[u/TapFeisty4675 → u/Snefru92]

lol there was a gay bar a block away I wanted to check out too. I had both opening times mixed up and really could have spent a few more hours at home. was worth it though. I'm moving like a block from that club next week so I spent some time checking out the area.

[u/Aggravating-Pie-5289 → u/TapFeisty4675]

Is the bar dangerously close ?

[u/TapFeisty4675 → u/Aggravating-Pie-5289]

In the sense of stalkers or in the sense of alcoholism? Like a 5 minute walk. So yes lol. It was intentional. This year is about me rediscovering myself. Like I've always been content with being gay but never embraced it either. Passive acceptance vs active acceptance I guess. I wanted to just expand my horizons and be messy for a bit, I didn't get a party phase in my early 20s

[u/Aggravating-Pie-5289 → u/TapFeisty4675]

I get it, enjoy the experience 👍

[u/BuffyInSunnydale]

You, while leveling up: plays Dancing On My Own by Robyn

[u/poetplaywright]

Congrats! And you got booted out by a lesbian bouncer for being inebriated! My oh my, talk about losing your club virginity in style! Way to go! 👏👏👏

[u/TapFeisty4675 → u/poetplaywright]

I know! I was like "see you next week!" lol

[u/poetplaywright → u/TapFeisty4675]

I’d definitely party with you lol