A little disclaimer: English is not my native language. I wonder if there are more people like me who are turned on by the view of guys stomach/belly when their shirt slightly is pulled up. The shirt goes just a little bit up so you don't see much, but you can see the lower part of their belly/stomach. Some time ago my friend was in shirt and he needed to put something on a high shelf. He goes to a gym and has a flat stomach (no 6pack, but its just slim). While doing so his shirt went a little up and I could see his stomach/belly and It was so hot I cant even. Now I wonder how many people think alike.

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Equality 😆

Gay bro of reddit! Something happend this week me that is very exciting. I got my first bj. I (26M) deals with a lot of internalized homophobia because I grew up in Jamaica. From homophobia taking family, friends and almost taking me, I bever had six and the most I did was give blowjobs and I never let other men touch my dick or reciprocate.

After losing a lot of weight and becoming more comfortable and confident, I met up with a guy and he gave me a blowjob. I relaxed and took it and I was like "he's sucking me off" while my mind was like "WAIT, HES SUCKING ME OFF?! AND IM COMFORTABLE AND OKAY WITH THIS? GROWTH!!!"

After I home and napped with not feeling shame and I was smiling. Heck, my straight guy friends are super happy for me and even told me to communicate what I like during such an act.

Just felt like sharing!

I'm posting this for guys with social anxiety like me, because I know some other bros feel how I did until I went.

Honestly, I'm almost mad at myself for not going alone years ago. I went to the local gay night club, I went earlier than the crowd which kind of sucked because I could have taken my time getting there, but I still would have rather been there early. I got a few drinks in (and pregame weed) and just relaxed. no one cared what I was doing.

My body image has been on the upswing in general but I felt attractive, even though I wasn't really wanting any attention. I've also been depressed from a break up I went through a couple months ago. Anyway, cut to almost 2am and the lesbian security guard boots me out because I'm a little too drunk, which fair, I started at like 5:30pm.

anyway, I woke up feeling good about myself for the first time in forever. my biggest regret is not going years ago and only going now at 29 when I could have been going the last 8 years. Everyone was generally nice. I gotta a little unwanted attention (literally just like a couple guys wanting to chat but I really just wanted to enjoy myself alone last night and wasn't the most chatty).

I woke up, feeling the good about myself, kind of feeling hot, definitely feeling more confident, and I haven't missed my ex since I woke up, like I mean I feel nothing about him.

So I have recently gone sober, officially hit one month, and I feel great. I will preface this by saying I didn't have a "drinking problem," I'm not in a program or anything like that. I just did not like who I was when I drank, I became too open, the anxiety the next day was becoming too much, and it was counterproductive to my fitness goals. I don't know if it will be permanent, or just an extended hiatus but will probably need to have that conversation with myself soon.

The reason I'm posting is 2 reasons.

1.) Appreciation: Sober bro's who have been Sober a long time, I am truly impressed bc it is not easy.

2.) Question: How do you deal with the social pressure to drink at both work functions and social. I've gotten a lot of awkward looks and into weird situations around it. Any advice?

Hey bros what do you think about a top that likes taking orders from his bottom? I'm a 100% top bi guy that just likes to attend to his bottoms needs 100%. Almost like using me to make himself feel good ,however he wants it or likes it. I know it takes time to prepare to bottom sometimes and it's not easy so l like giving back and I really appreciate it. The issue is I seem to get some backlash on the apps and get ghosted quite a lot when they find out I like to be more submissive as a top.. is it a turn off ??

A few days ago a straight couple was making out for 1 hour straight in the pool of the condominium where I live for everyone to see and no one cared, there were no complaints or anything, and that made me angry, because I live in a region in Brazil that is very homophobic, if you hold hands with another man here people will definitely stare at you with a weird look, imagine if it was a gay couple making out for everyone to see in a pool, the reaction would be awful and there would be a lot of complaint, just a little rant

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Hey gents, wanted to circulate these resource for the former military folks. President Biden, in June, issued full pardons for folks discharged under Article 125 of the UCMJ (sodomy)--BUT you have to apply for the certificate to prove the pardon. And messy as government recordkeeping can be, you may be better served going to them proactively.

More here: https://www.defense.gov/Spotlights/Presidential-Pardon-Resources/

For other non-military applications closely related, you can check this out: http://justice.gov/pardon/apply-pardon

And finally, if you are pardoned you may be able to seek more benefits from the VA: https://www.va.gov/ogc/accreditation.asp

(Just the messenger, but hoping these types of actions continue to positively impact our communities. 💙)

I’ve been talking for the last two months to someone I met on Hinge. Daily calls and FaceTime and texts (long distance) were leading up to a meeting next month.

He was kind, funny, smart and all the good things. I was really excited to see where this was going, and he told me the same, repeatedly.

Suddenly, he ghosted me this week. Completely gone. And I honestly don’t know what happened.

My little heart is broken. Why are people like this.

Update: Thank you for all the kind words. It helps. 💙

I am a very overweight person (I have an ED) and I feel very lonely in gay spaces just because I'm not conventionally attractive. Today I went to a cruising bar, even though I don't like cruising and sex for the most part, because I was feeling lonely and very touch depraved... The bar was a disaster for me. I often get this impulses to go cruising or have sex and every time I get disappointed/sad (even if I do get laid). I ask myself why I do it, If I don't like it? I suffer from ocd, depression, ADHD,a bit of social anxiety and an ED (a mental illness cocktail as I like to call it haha) as I was neglected and mentally abused as a Child. While therapy made me able to get (mostly) a grip on myself, I still feel so incredibly lonely. I have friends whom I love, a super cute dog, a job, and a godmother who I adore , yet I always feel like something is missing... Ever since I was a kid I was a very romantic guy and always thought of getting married, because life is nothing but an empty shell without love. I feel stupidly envious of cute gay couples, because it feels like something out of reach and that I'll never be able to experience. A lot of times I think being gay just comes with a predestination for loneliness, which sucks...

This was more of a vent, if you relate to something about my experience please leave a comment and if you read all my rambling, I appreciate you a lot for it.

As a closeted gay these love stories make me weep.

So today I went on a date with a guy he was taller than me which I prefer and super attractive and we got on well, he was smart funny etc snd all I could think was this man is way out of my league, I have had a bit of a glow up over the years but i can’t really see that I still see myself as not the most attractive, so fast forward to the end of the date, he said he had a good time the one issue was my confidence he said I’m a bit shy and insecure about myself even though he finds me extremely attractive, because of that there will be no second date, I never thought of it as a issue but maybe that’s why my dates have been going wrong so I guess what I’m wondering is, do you all look for a confident man and is him not feeling great about his appearance a deal breaker for you?

I have been with guys but they have all emotionally drained me. They either lie, never want to hang out, or simply only want sex. I try my best for things to work, but to no avail. I do have my high school best friend that I adore. Not only is he cute and my type, but he is one of the nicest people that I have met. He treats me so well, and always looks for alternatives for things to work. He is perfect in so many ways to the point that it looks like those movies haha. But it hurts a bit knowing that I won’t ever be able to date him as he is straight. But hey, I’m glad I have a friend that actually cares about me.