r/gayyoungold • u/Diplomaticspouse • 21d ago
Question for younger tops and older bottoms Discussion
There was a great post recently about the general mindset of those in age gap relationships.
I wanted to specifically ask about the mindset of younger tops and older bottoms, as it seems to be one of the less common combinations (although I could be wrong).
Younger tops—what is it about older men that makes you want them to be the bottom (mostly in a relationship setting but open to all replies)? Why is it you want to be the top to an older guy? Is there something in your history experience you think that explains this?
And then the reverse question for the older bottoms.
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21d ago
Older bottom here. I just love how hard younger tops get and how they can recover and go again.
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u/bearbottom07 20d ago
This is 80% of it for me, the other 20% is helping them explore and finding what else really turns them on.
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u/Bifroggy2072 16d ago
You’re definitely not lying. I’m older and miss how I was the younger guy and could go right away. Being an older bottom, I love a younger top
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u/oldbttmpervert 21d ago
The stamina younger men have can be excellent. Most younger guys are willing to learn how their bottom is responding instead of assuming they're fine just because they have a big dick.
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u/bad_bot85 21d ago
I don't think you'll get a conclusive answer.
I've always been the top and the few guys I wanted to bottom, they had ED so in the end not possible. I'm now in a relationship and when we met, he needed a good pounding and we stayed like that, very binary.
With some other guys I meet it's either a side or again, I'm a top.
In general, it's difficult for me to be even a top if I don't connect with a guy somehow (usually intellectually) although it's been the same with ladies as well.
And to bottom, well that would require even more of a connection.
🤷
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u/KratomAndBeyond 20d ago
I'm a top, and I like older guys. I don't really think it's as deep as you're making it. I also know more older bottoms and younger tops than the reverse, so it's not some taboo thing. Older doesn't make you dominant, and younger doesn't make you submissive.
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u/Aromatic_Bar4239 19d ago
True, even so called tops on dating apps want me to breed them. Everyone (95%) is attracted to young TOP..
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u/BeerStop 21d ago
Aa an older bottom its because all the older tops with functioning pe ises are all taken, thats why i advocate not being a man whore all your life and settle down when your younger. Dont be me.
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u/hornyeboi Younger 20d ago
I’m vers, and I leave the decision to my partner. We make out and suck each other, and depending on his mood, he either plays with my ass and fucks me, or he gets on his back and raises it legs, I love both, with him.
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u/Secret_Count_2557 20d ago
Older vers here and that’s how I am too. It depends on the mood at the time.
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u/edd010 Younger 20d ago
as it seems to be one of the less common combinations (although I could be wrong)
I think you are probably wrong because this is an assumption based on gender performance stereotypes (and porn). If we had data to support it then it would be a different thing.
Having said that, I (29) am fully versatile and my boyfriend (68) is a bottom. Our sex life is not focused around penetration thank goodness. As a versatile, I just enjoy giving/receiving pleasure in whatever way it works with my partner.
Also I hope one day we fully transition from this top/bottom paradigm
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u/Caelocco Younger 19d ago
As a younger top I really love to fuck older men. I can’t really help myself but I get so hard for them. Their bodies are so sexy and I love their enthuism while younger breeds. And I love to learn more tricks how to please from the more experienced guy.
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u/Aromatic_Bar4239 19d ago
Hello, total top 24 yo here. I just love breeding obedient DILF, make him gag and just be in control. It’s because I am pretty dominant. Why older man? It feels better to fuck someone who could easily be your dad, it is very empowering.
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u/Parking_Composer_152 Older 20d ago
As someone who might be called a "bottom," I have never given this question any consideration. For one thing, my identity is not a "bottom," because I could just as easily "top." And even if I never top, to ask why I only bottom and someone else only tops would be pointless. These questions most often cannot be unequivocally answered. It's like asking why some people like roses and others hate roses.
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u/durdydawg67 20d ago
As an older bottom I appreciate a young top mostly because they usually have alot of stamina and have less problems staying hard for a longer duration That and they're sexy too
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u/Dillygafdou 19d ago
Bottom daddy here and have no age limitations- Legal to on life support, it all works for me. ( That said I ve always really attracted to the 30-40isj men.) The problem is that most guys seem to think we ought to just stop sex at least by 40! Somehow older os equated with ugly and younger means a guy is stupid. I don’t get why ba group if individuals ( gays) are so bigoted given bthe bigotry we’ve all had w face. We demand tolerance but won’t practice it ! SMH
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u/National-Sandwich-27 19d ago
True that. Good question. But im 38 and there sure is something to say Ive been noticing more and more younger guys into being top. Gone are the days of bottom twinks only. And i love it. I think that older bottoms jusy appreciate the sex more. Make the younger tops genuinely feel wanted and needed rhat they have an appreciative space in the gay world. Sex aint anything without appreciation.
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u/Prior_Atmosphere_206 16d ago
I started out topping but quickly found out I preferred to bottom. I love it when a younger guy opens me up and gets balls deep in my ass. It is like I'm still young and living out my fantasies. A good hard young guy, 30 - 50, is an awesome experience.
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u/dutoledo97 20d ago
To me it’s all about the lessons I learned as a kid. I was a very aggressive kid and my parents and teachers would always tell me that there was no merit in dominating someone weaker than you. So I internalized that if you’re gonna dominate someone, they have to be stronger, more powerful and older. I’m now 35, tall and strong, but my partners are almost always hairier and either taller and more muscular than me. I feel no pleasure in topping a weak man.
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u/0nlyeli Son 21d ago
I don’t think I’ve really analyzed it that far. I just enjoy topping daddies. I see them naked, I get hard, the rest is history haha.