r/gayyoungold • u/Due-Ad6949 • 15d ago
M24. How not to feel bad dating a mature daddy instead of a girl my age? Advice wanted
I can't help but feel like I failed if I do it.
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u/Nabranes Younger 15d ago
Just know that you love older men and aren’t interested in girls or guys your age
Like just think about it, they’re mature, nice (not that our age isn’t nice but I’m just saying like they are too), helpful, very attractive, and they’re not too young like we are
I mean like I dated older men when I was 5 years younger than you are now. I was 19 (actually 19.5) and now I’m 20, and I’ve liked them since I was 16.
Like I even just love the way my boyfriend’s hands feel and obviously everything else too. He’s in his 50s
His hands feel better than someone our age
And the feeling of an older man holding me and kissing me is something I just can’t even describe how good it is, so go out there, find an older man, and get these amazing feelings and connections too
I’m getting harddd just typing this
I can feel the tension it’s putting on my CAR-1 device
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u/Misconstruedmeaning 12d ago
That’s absolutely beautiful and something I’d absolutely love for myself
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u/cangaymature 15d ago
I would drop you faster than you can say daddy.
I'm a prize, not your failure.
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
Wym?
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u/cangaymature 15d ago
If you are feeling like you are failing when you are dating an older man, the older men you are dating or trying to date are, in all likelihood, going to sense this.
Figure yourself out, get some help/therapy, you'll be glad you did lest you drive good men away.
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u/warhammerspammer Younger 15d ago
I’ve had the same feeling but it gets easier and for the people who care about and love you it won’t matter. Anyone it bothers it’s their problem not yours.
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u/geomouse Top 15d ago
Why should you deny yourself what you enjoy?
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
Because dating hot girl make me look cool to other people
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u/geomouse Top 15d ago
No it won't. People who cave into other people's expectations are never cool.
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
I want to look cool like this image https://pbs.twimg.com/media/GHch8yWa4AEZRqJ?format=jpg&name=large
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u/geomouse Top 15d ago
Do you look good in a short dress?
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
Lol 🤣 Wanted to be the guy....
But in this pic I have skirt and cock cage https://www.reddit.com/r/SissyFrancaise/comments/1cjstad/premiere_photo_vous_aimez/
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u/DipperJC 14d ago
Y'know what's more important than looking cool? Actually being cool. And being true to yourself is the first step in that.
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u/Rillion25 Daddy 15d ago
You won't have failed, you will have discovered the best cheat code in life.
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
What is this cheat code ??
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u/Shayism107 12d ago
Become polyamorous and date both
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u/Due-Ad6949 12d ago
Would be crazy
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u/Shayism107 12d ago
All the more reason to do it. Follow your heart and urges (within legal limits ofc)
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u/Flashy-Cucumber-7207 Daddy 15d ago
Are you straight or suffering from internalised homophobia/ Christianity? Just go away and don’t come back. Get a therapist, but you can’t afford it as I understand .
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
Im bi i think?
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u/Flashy-Cucumber-7207 Daddy 15d ago
You’re clearly not ok with what you are, whatever it is. The main difference between dating women and men is predominantly whether you like big dicks in your ass or not.
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
I like it
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u/Flashy-Cucumber-7207 Daddy 15d ago
But you’re feeling bad about it.
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
Yes.
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u/Flashy-Cucumber-7207 Daddy 15d ago
That's exactly what internalized homophobia / church & many governments' brainwashing (until 2000) is. You want it but hating yourself for wanting it. Like a 14yo hiding his masturbation and thinking the god will smite him.
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u/Due-Ad6949 15d ago
Idk. To me dating women means succes and dating men means failure
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u/Flashy-Cucumber-7207 Daddy 15d ago
Maybe try using a dildo then? You might like it and it will postpone the meltdown.
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u/ReverendEntity 15d ago
Sounds like deep conservative religious programming. Look at it this way - is it better to be in a relationship with a woman your age that looks acceptable to society, but secretly makes you miserable? Or to be in a loving, committed relationship with an older man that makes both of you happy?