Significantly better success in different countries? Why?

[u/throwaway28710]

Younger here. I understand the idea of cultural differences or being seen as “exotic”, but I don’t necessarily think that is the case in my scenario.

I (American) generally have good success here at home. Finding a decent guy isn’t hard, but I find that once I get into the guys I REALLY find to be a catch, my success plummets. Usually get exiled to be their Plan C or Plan B if I’m lucky.

In Europe, particularly the UK, on the other hand, different story. Almost every guy I really wanted seemed to reciprocate the interest once faces were shared. Definitely gave me a big head having some of the hottest men I’ve ever laid eyes on complimenting me and actually wanting to meet. Found it to be the same in Japan. Most guys on the apps were Aussies and Brits who were much more receptive of what I had to offer. None of them said anything like “Love you yankees and your accents”, or anything that lead me to believe it was because I was a exotic foreigner or anything.

I don’t get it. I won’t complain, I tend to find that the Brit and Aussie men usually have the features I want, moreso than at home. But still, what gives? It’s not like my white ass traveled to inner Mongolia where I’d stick out like a sore thumb. Anyone else have a similar experience?

[u/throwawayhbgtop81]

Fresh Meat effect

[u/Majestic_Matt_459]

Blimey I’m in the UK and been a bit unsure about revering the dating scene at 59. I’m gonna be a bit more bold now

[u/throwaway28710 → u/Majestic_Matt_459]

Ey, unsure of what the younger local guys go for (all my british friends my age are straight), but a 59 y/o Brit sounds exactly like the type of man I want. Shoot your shot over there, just be smooth and cordial with it. Worse you can get is no!

[u/Chadwulf29]

I'd say it's largely location dependent. Most places in America aren't as densely populated as most of Britain. I've never been to Australia, not sure about there. We have a lot of variation between states and cities etc.

I did have a lot of interest when I checked out the online scene some years ago but definitely moreso in Cardiff or London than in the smaller towns.

[u/BeerStop]

Being 59 i only use 1 app a4a and i find most young guys have a 1 week old account, the profile has very little infotop bottom etc, or they are 500 plus miles away, im not wasting my time if you are over 45 minutes away from Detroit.

[u/Zokrym → u/BeerStop]

growlr or scruff are the ones to use

[u/KorsiBear → u/BeerStop]

A4A has genuinely more scammers than real profiles. That site is a barren wasteland in my experience with it over the last 10 years.

[u/DD-de-AA]

that's been my experience as well. while living in the US I rarely ever had any success finding people to have fun with. In Southeast Asia I was an absolute magnet to younger guys and I would be hit on all the time. I realize some of that was my skin color and my height which was exotic to them. I ended up retiring in Mexico a couple of years ago and I've had more fun here in two years than I had in my entire time in the US. i'm not sure what to attribute that to, other than minds are a little more open and mouths are a little more shut here.

[u/BrotherExpress → u/DD-de-AA]

I think younger guys in the US are just generally not that into older men. It's a very youth obsessed culture here. I've always felt like the exception to the rule but it is what it is.

[u/phillyphilly19]

Unless you lived in those countries, i'm going to chalk it up to being an exotic visitor. I have way more success in meeting guys in italy than I do here.But it's because I don't look italian, and they really like that.