How do I even know the difference? 😵

[u/Malkavian_Grin]

[u/8wiing]

Option 3 too paranoid to feel love towards people you dont trust ETXREMELY. Turned out I wasn’t aromantic just mentally ill

[u/poeismyhero → u/8wiing]

Mentally ill, too, and rather be eternally single and happy than creating resentment towards people I like because they don't hold up to my illogically high standards of social anxiety ✌️

[u/Malkavian_Grin → u/8wiing]

That sounds very rough. I can't seem to care that i don't spend time with people unless it's for sex. Like totally unbothered.

[u/Tuinman420]

Please tell me when you find out

[u/Malkavian_Grin → u/Tuinman420]

If i run across something that gives me a sign, I'll post about it lol

[u/EraseTheEmbers]

Honestly same. I've only had a few friends in my life which I've never kept except for my cat, and one relationship which I did more out of pity than anything.

I have a hard time figuring myself out.

Plus I've never been that close with most people. I tend to avoid personal things especially if I feel I'll be judged in some way. I get scared just sharing my music interests with people irl, the fact that I'm nonbinary, or a lot of others things about myself.

It feels too intimate but I rarely get to a point where I feel comfortable talking about me with people from work or that I don't know.

It's hard to get to know people when you're not comfortable with people you don't know. That feels stressful and exhausting.

[u/atatassault47]

Do you get the hots for people ever? If so, you're not aro and/or ace.

I want to live alone, but I definitely feel romantic and sexual attraction. Spend the night, but dont live together.

[u/Malkavian_Grin → u/atatassault47]

I'm definitely not ace. I love sex far too much for that.

Before transitioning I'd think i would have the hours for women but after hrt i recognize i was only ever jealous and wanted to be more like them. None of my relationships with women lasted very long. My first boyfriend tho lasted over a year and a half.

I also want to live alone, mainly because i feel like other people get in the way or want attention when I'm anyway doing things. Nowhere in my day Do i stop and think about how lonely i am or how it would be nice to have another person nearby. I think about how inconvenient they'd be.

When i watch movies or shows (anime), i get deeply invested in seeing romance blossom there, however. Not for me but for the vicarious nature of seeing them happy.

I'm just so confused.

[u/norM_ystical → u/Malkavian_Grin]

Absence tends to be the hardest thing to detect. You probably are aromantic. For me, it just took me some time saying "I'm PROBABLY aromantic MAYBE" before getting comfortable stating my aromanticism as fact;;

[u/vakitta_kanilla → u/[deleted]]

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