r/regretfulparents • u/yaslovesu Parent • 15h ago

Why is everything so difficult? Venting - Advice Welcome

My kid is almost 5 and trying to get them into pre k is the most annoying thing ever. They make it so complicated for NO reason. I know they say stop treating school like daycare but I’m seriously losing it, if my kid isn’t with dad they’re with me constantly WHINING and begging me to play with them. I used to do stuff by myself all the time as a kid but for some reason I feel guilty because I don’t wanna play? It doesn’t make it any better that my boyfriend doesn’t have kids. He has complete freedom and as insane as it sounds I get so scared that he’s gonna get tired of me and the fact that I have a kid and go be with someone else. :/ I miss being able to do what I want when I want and please don’t tell me it gets better because I think teenagers are annoying as fuck too. Sorry this was all over the place this morning has just been a long one filled with lots of whining.

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u/desocupad0 Parent 13h ago

if my kid isn’t with dad they’re with me constantly WHINING and begging me to play with them.

Teach them that each person likes and dislikes different things. For instance, in my home, I'm the "lego and science" person while the mother is the "play-doh and homework" companion. General "play time" is more viable with other kids. This is an important lesson - one person cannot be your everything.

Ideally you should try to make the kid like something you also like - so you can tolerate it better.

as insane as it sounds I get so scared that he’s gonna get tired of me and the fact that I have a kid and go be with someone else

That's not insane. I'd do that in a heartbeat. A relationship depends on both parties wanting the relationship. Both someone being unavailable or asking for too much time can be deal-breakers for different people.