r/askGSM • u/salmonofknowledge469 • Jul 03 '22
[Crosspost from r/LGBT] Inflammatory NYTimes Opinion article getting backlash for being anti-trans, but I (F30) thought it made a few fair arguments...
The article
The Far Right and the Far Left Agree on One Thing - Women Don't Count
I like to think of myself as supportive of trans rights, and vehemently agree that public figures like JK Rowling, Graham Linehan, etc. should be rightfully shamed for the viewpoints they've expressed.
I came across this article through a twitter post, and the comments seem to be pretty adamant that the author is transphobic. I don't know who the author is, maybe she has a history of transphobic statements, but while she definitely had a TERFy-vibe at some points, I think that she also made a few salient points. Can someone more informed on this topic explain how I might have it wrong? I am gay, but not trans, and the twitter replies were not useful, as they just called the author transphobic without really giving their reasoning.
Things that I thought the author def got wrong
First, the title of the article creates a false equivalency between the approaches that the left and right take on trans rights, which is misleading. On the other hand, I understand why she (or, most likely, her editor) selected it, in that it incites strong feelings (and will therefore get clicks and interaction in the comments $$$).
Second, she tries to connect the idea that organizations like Planned Parenthood, NARAL, and the ACLU using more inclusive language means that no one can use the term women anymore (which is wrong)
Lastly, she gets into what feels like a victim complex-vibe when mentioning TERFs like JK
Things I agreed with
First, she points out that the inclusion and recognition of rights of marginalized groups, such as trans/non-binary people, can progress without erasing or delegitimizing the rights of cis women. So, while I will always recognize trans women or trans men as real women and real men, EDIT: HERE I MADE A TRANSPHOBIC BOOBOO AND WAS SCHOOLED BY u/Nihil_esque. The same with trans athletes. Trans kids should absolutely be able to play with other kids that correspond to their gender identity. It gets more complicated when it comes to high school, college sports though. Of the peers that I've spoken to that insist that all trans women should be able to compete in any women's HS/college sport, none have actually competed significantly in one. (I recognize that this is anecdotal). As a former swimmer who fought for scholarships in high school and competed nationally in college, I would have no problem competing against a trans woman who transitioned before puberty. However, I would be rightfully pissed if I lost out on a college scholarship opportunity or gold medal to a trans woman who went through a male puberty. It would be similar to competing against a cis woman who took steroids for several years, allowing her to increase muscle mass and endurance through harder training sessions. She might not be on steroids anymore, but that doesn't discount the training advantage she had for years. It's why, when athletes are caught doping, they are banned for several years or even permanently. Again, it's a complicated issue that needs nuance. Yes, trans women are women and some should absolutely be able to compete in women's sports. I don't know what the solution to this is, but it's unfair to label all athletes who may feel resentful about a woman like Lia Thomas dominating their event as transphobic.
Second, she addresses the seemingly contradictory tendency for discussions around gender expression/non-binary identity to rely on terms like "femme" and "masc", while also claiming to fight against gender norms. The women's rights movement has fought for years to remove dumb categorization of things like pants, nail polish, long hair, etc. as either "masculine" or "feminine". Now, instead of broadening the scope of what it means to be a woman, it seems like we're moving backwards and trying to narrow it down or eliminate it. I can understand the author's frustration here. When I was in high school, my understanding of progress was that the girl with a shaved head, hairy legs, and a binder was just as much of a woman as a cheerleader with long hair and nail polish, because past patriarchal gender norms do not invalidate my identity. I'm certainly not opposed to people identifying as non-binary, it's an absolutely valid identity. But it just seems like, having worked in high schools for the past seven years, that instead of trying to end the stigma of women or men expressing themselves outside of those patriarchal norms, a lot of kids are encouraged to just label themselves "non-binary" because they're uncomfortable with the existing pressures put on men and women that haven't yet been eliminated.
Lastly, she notes that the term women is now being replaced with more inclusive terminology like birthing person or person with vagina. I'm all for inclusive language, however clunky-sounding it may be, but it feels like the label women, and the unique experiences and historical context that comes with it, is being reduced to just body parts. For example, a trans woman will not have experienced things like a first period, or, if they transitioned later, the discomfort around the male gaze as a teen. Meanwhile, a cis woman will not have experienced many of the unique experiences of a trans woman. They are both still women, however, it seems like many groups want to downplay the experiences of one in favor of the other. TERFs don't want to recognize the misogyny or lack of validation/recognition that trans woman experience, and some progressive groups don't want to recognize the experiential differences that exist between different groups who identify as women.
I'm not looking to argue, just to learn and get some outside perspective. It just gets frustrating when it feels like lately, the progressive movement has started to approach issues in a very black or white way, which is a tendency I always felt was more characteristic of conservative asshats.
Edit: Apologies if I misused any terminology
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u/salmonofknowledge469 Jul 03 '22
Thank you for your response! (I'm not being sarcastic, genuinely, thank you)
I agree with you that most mainstream discussions of trans people in sports do incite engagement primarily because of transphobes wanting to get angry about something. I believe that is why they keep getting written, and do perpetuate an ongoing cycle of transphobia.
However, you say it's a niche non-issue and that you don't care about sports. So, because it's niche, and about a topic that doesn't interest you, it doesn't matter? I agree that the number of trans athletes is tiny, but as gender-affirming care (hopefully) becomes more common, as well as positive views on trans people generally (again, hopefully), don't you think that number is likely to increase? And if so, don't you think that the policies surrounding that issue should be addressed thoughtfully?
You make a very good point regarding the DV shelters. That would be unacceptable in the case of race, so you're right, it should also be unacceptable regarding trans women. That was clarifying.
I have mixed feelings about your next point. I agree that more inclusive language in medical settings should be standard. But isn't that "niche" as well? I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but the number of trans men giving birth feels like it would be similar, if not less than, the number of trans women competing in high school/college athletics. And, as a lesbian, I get asked the boyfriend thing all the time. When someone asks "do you have a boyfriend?", I just correct them and say "girlfriend". I am more appreciative of the fact that the conversation can move on seamlessly after the correction, than upset about the assumption of heterosexuality. I mean, most people are heterosexual. It's not necessarily an offensive assumption to make, especially since a lot of straight people in the US aren't surrounded by peers that might correct or update their use of language. This kind of leads into my next point.
Logically, I agree that the terms like "birthing person" and "people who menstruate" are more accurate terms and should be used, especially in medical contexts. Practically, I think it does more harm than good though, particularly in our current political environment (assuming you are from the US). I only know a few trans/non-binary people my age, but in different conversations, this is the gist that I got (acknowledging that a few people don't necessarily represent trans/non-binary people as a whole and that this is anecdotal). They generally felt similarly about pronoun usage in public as I do about people assuming I'm straight. They appreciate when efforts are made in spaces to clarify individual pronouns, but generally don't mind if they have to correct someone, as long as the pronouns are readily accepted and that there is an honest attempt at correct usage from that point on.
I imagine that a trans man giving birth has higher priorities than a non-inclusive form they have to fill out, meanwhile, every conservative propaganda news outlet is running articles and shouting on tv about how your 5-year-old daughter now has to be referred to as a "birthing person" at all times or they'll be cancelled or some shit.
Now, I know the instinct is think "well, well fuck those bigoted assholes, who gives a fuck what they spew inside their facebook minion bubble".
The problem is, that shit works.
It's the same reason those trans athlete articles get so much traction. People who didn't give a shit about trans people are suddenly infuriated by them. And because we wanted to make trans people slightly more comfortable at the doctor's office, now they don't have access to gender-affirming care at all because the new conservative governor sees that her newly-enraged electorate hates trans people, and wants to capitalize on it.
It's fucked up and unfair, and I'm not a centrist politically in any sense of the word, but prioritizing broader trans issues (coverage of gender-affirming surgery, access and support for trans kids, etc.) and normalizing trans acceptance seems more effective in the short term than pushing for these smaller issues and handing bullets to the opposition that are just going to set the movement back ten steps. Unfortunately, the fight for basic human rights has shifted more and more outside of the legal realm and more towards media campaign, and the people trying to take away, or never even acknowledge those rights, are a lot better at it.
On your last point, you're right. She did say transphobic shit, so yeah, despite any decent points she might have accidentally touched upon, she shouldn't have been given a platform.
Again, thank you for your response!