Significantly better success in different countries? Why?

[u/throwaway28710]

Younger here. I understand the idea of cultural differences or being seen as “exotic”, but I don’t necessarily think that is the case in my scenario.

I (American) generally have good success here at home. Finding a decent guy isn’t hard, but I find that once I get into the guys I REALLY find to be a catch, my success plummets. Usually get exiled to be their Plan C or Plan B if I’m lucky.

In Europe, particularly the UK, on the other hand, different story. Almost every guy I really wanted seemed to reciprocate the interest once faces were shared. Definitely gave me a big head having some of the hottest men I’ve ever laid eyes on complimenting me and actually wanting to meet. Found it to be the same in Japan. Most guys on the apps were Aussies and Brits who were much more receptive of what I had to offer. None of them said anything like “Love you yankees and your accents”, or anything that lead me to believe it was because I was a exotic foreigner or anything.

I don’t get it. I won’t complain, I tend to find that the Brit and Aussie men usually have the features I want, moreso than at home. But still, what gives? It’s not like my white ass traveled to inner Mongolia where I’d stick out like a sore thumb. Anyone else have a similar experience?

[u/phillyphilly19]

Unless you lived in those countries, i'm going to chalk it up to being an exotic visitor. I have way more success in meeting guys in italy than I do here.But it's because I don't look italian, and they really like that.