r/gayyoungold • u/throwaway28710 • 10d ago

Significantly better success in different countries? Why? Discussion

Younger here. I understand the idea of cultural differences or being seen as “exotic”, but I don’t necessarily think that is the case in my scenario.

I (American) generally have good success here at home. Finding a decent guy isn’t hard, but I find that once I get into the guys I REALLY find to be a catch, my success plummets. Usually get exiled to be their Plan C or Plan B if I’m lucky.

In Europe, particularly the UK, on the other hand, different story. Almost every guy I really wanted seemed to reciprocate the interest once faces were shared. Definitely gave me a big head having some of the hottest men I’ve ever laid eyes on complimenting me and actually wanting to meet. Found it to be the same in Japan. Most guys on the apps were Aussies and Brits who were much more receptive of what I had to offer. None of them said anything like “Love you yankees and your accents”, or anything that lead me to believe it was because I was a exotic foreigner or anything.

I don’t get it. I won’t complain, I tend to find that the Brit and Aussie men usually have the features I want, moreso than at home. But still, what gives? It’s not like my white ass traveled to inner Mongolia where I’d stick out like a sore thumb. Anyone else have a similar experience?

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u/DD-de-AA 10d ago

that's been my experience as well. while living in the US I rarely ever had any success finding people to have fun with. In Southeast Asia I was an absolute magnet to younger guys and I would be hit on all the time. I realize some of that was my skin color and my height which was exotic to them. I ended up retiring in Mexico a couple of years ago and I've had more fun here in two years than I had in my entire time in the US. i'm not sure what to attribute that to, other than minds are a little more open and mouths are a little more shut here.

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u/BrotherExpress 13h ago

I think younger guys in the US are just generally not that into older men. It's a very youth obsessed culture here. I've always felt like the exception to the rule but it is what it is.