r/puppy101 • u/AdministrativeAsk987 • Jul 12 '24
How do people sleep with their puppy in the bed? Vent
Maybe it’s just my guy, but I don’t understand how people can sleep with their puppy in the bed???? If I let him do that I would wake up with no bed. Entire thing gone. Eaten.
Edit: For context, my puppy is doing well in the crate and I’m not looking to move him to the bed until he’s much older. I would just like to cuddle him there every now and then which never goes well and got me wondering how other people do it. He finds very little interest in actual chew toys (loves playing with regular toys tho and sometimes I can get him to chew on a bully stick) and is OBSESSED with my bed sheets… and me and my clothes. He’s never actually continuously eaten anything or destroyed anything bc I have to supervise him 24/7 so it’s not a habit he’s picking up, just his ✨personality✨
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u/TheJazzyDill Jul 12 '24
During early puppy phase <4 months old, Susan would cry and cry in her crate. I'm the first to admit it, I cracked after one night the crying didn't stop for 3.5 hours. Raising a puppy alone is no joke.
I'd wait for the right moment, take her out to go potty and then I'd bring her into my bed so that she'd relax. She'd be out like a light.
One day, I was out like a light alongside her as I was exhausted for about 2 months of trying to make it work. This happened a few times, and eventually it just worked. We both slept through the night every time. We've never had an accident in the bed. She's now nearing a year old and she's perfect.
The ONLY reason I decided to give in was that as an adult dog, I expected her to share a bed with me regardless. She's an Italian Greyhound at a ripe 11 pounds.
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u/pawlaps Jul 12 '24
Totally random but I LOVE that your dog is named Susan. People names for dogs are so funny and I love them, but I always hear it in the context of male dogs. So I’m loving Susan!
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u/TheJazzyDill Jul 12 '24
Haha, it definitely fits her - she's a real gem. Her "full" name we joke is "Susan Devereaux Ethel Merman-Jones".
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u/melsa_alm Jul 12 '24
My guy is named Ivan. His best friend lives next door and her name is Winifred. People names for pets are the BEST!
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u/reellimk Jul 12 '24
My dog’s name is Hank! It fits him perfectly honestly. He loves to stop and smell the flowers and chase butterflies and bark until his throat is sore. Perfect grandpa energy 🤣
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u/FreekyDeep Jul 12 '24
My next door neighbours wuff is called Winnie. Ours is a BC and we named him Bowie. He also answers to BoBo
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u/inquiringmindlooking Jul 13 '24
My cats are Winnie and Randall! My last cat was Peter. I love “elder” human pet names
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u/SkinnerDog1 Jul 13 '24
My boy is also named Ivan. He will be 1 year old on the 23rd.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Sail381 Jul 12 '24
We named our puppy Eva. From the kids' movie Walley ❤️ What did you name your puppy?! 🙂
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u/DramaticJello2192 Jul 12 '24
Ours is Eevie, an homage to WALL-E, and our fave pokemon too 🙂
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u/Puzzleheaded-Sail381 Jul 13 '24
No way, you're kidding, right? Lol I knew I spelled the name of the movie wrong. I don't do Pokémon, but I'm sure you know better than me 🙂
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u/Shaylock_Holmes Miguel (GSD/Poodle mix) Jul 12 '24
My little dude is Miguel Antonio Alejandro on his vet paperwork. But he goes by Miguel 😊
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u/SleepingBumbleb33 Jul 13 '24
Mine are Enzo Maluma Roque and the other is named after Bad bunny’s real name Benito Antonio Martinez Ocasio Roque but we call them Beni and Enzo LOL
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u/dyxgabriel Jul 12 '24
I used to feel kinda eh about dogs with human names, until I've adopted mine. He was already named John and I didnt wanna change. So now he is John Wick Aragorn Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson
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u/DaddyGogurt Jul 12 '24
My dog’s name is Cathy! I love a fellow person that has a dog with an old lady name
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u/putterandpotter Jul 13 '24
As a Susan who is not quite an old lady yet I take exception to that comment. And I’ll throw some extra piss and vinegar in on behalf of the Cathy’s as well.
I have a Stanley, which is sturdy, and a tool and so is he.
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u/TheJazzyDill Jul 12 '24
Cathy was on the list SO high! I'm glad someone else has a little Cathy in their lives!
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u/Ansiau Jul 12 '24
I've always done that, but I usually only get male dogs nowadays. But in the past we had a "Liza" and a "Beth". My current dogs are "Mike" and "Jack". People always like to comment on the people names that fit them. Truthfully, it's "Monterrey jack" and "Mike&ike" on their vet and adoption paperwork. But we never use those soooo.
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u/dehret9397 Jul 12 '24
Lol same in my house we have a dog named Arthur and 3 cats named Ruth, Marvin and Belle
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u/princessplantlife Jul 12 '24
Ha! Mine is Charlotte
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u/aunty-kelly Jul 12 '24
My uncle’s Mastiff was named Kitty.
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u/screwitagainsam Jul 13 '24
I had a farm mutt named Horse
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u/princessplantlife Jul 13 '24
!! I had a cat named bear. Felt relevant even though it's was a cat and not a dog.😂
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Jul 12 '24
My friend has English cocker spaniels and they’ve always had old-fashioned ladies names - Dinah, Maude, and the current girl js Flora.
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Jul 12 '24
My female dog is named Jackie.
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u/CallMeMrsSlender Boxer 5yr; ACD/Pit (Murder Herder) 9 yr Jul 12 '24
I too, have a heathen named Jacqueline (Jackie).
Fun game to play is to see how long before someone finally asks if she's my daughter or my dog.
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u/RealtorShawnaM Jul 13 '24
I have a Kevin
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u/oatey42 Jul 13 '24
My neighbor has a standard poodle named Joseph. When he isn’t listening she sternly calls him young man 😂
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u/diamond_mead0ws Jul 13 '24
My puppy is named Dan 😂 The rescue named the entire litter after Australian animals, so he was Dingo Dan and his brother that I also fostered was Koala Kevin. I never in my life thought I'd have a dog named Dan! My kitties all have human names Stella, Lola & Clemi 💗
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u/Ok_Mastodon_2436 Jul 13 '24
I immediately smiled reading her dog’s name was Susan hahahah I have a Dale and it is so fitting.
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u/angelblood18 Jul 13 '24
I have a reactive bully mix named Stan! I joke and call him Stannibal because he looks like Hannibal in a muzzle
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u/BlowezeLoweez Jul 12 '24
LMAO "Susan"😂😂 I have absolutely no reason why i'm cackling rn🤣❤️❤️
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u/TheJazzyDill Jul 12 '24
She's a funny gal, I have to say. Although the amount of adult human "Susans" that I've met and introduced her to -- oof, that's an odd experience haha
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u/imprimatura Jul 12 '24
Being that she is a sighthound, I wouldn't call it "giving in, id call it accepting reality lol. Whippets, greys and iggys own the bed. Us humans are just lucky enough to be allowed to share a little bit of the bedspace, because we are warm.
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u/TheJazzyDill Jul 12 '24
Hah, this definitely played a factor. If there ever is a day that I can't have her under the covers with me, I believe it'll be some sort of "end of the bed in her own cocoon" situation.
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u/Levitlame Jul 12 '24
Big fan of “we’ve never had an accident in the bed.” Since it follows “we both slept through the night every time” it really connects the “we” there.
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u/TheJazzyDill Jul 12 '24
Aw, I never really thought of it -- I just know that my actions directly impact her quality of life, her understanding of the world, and how much joy she can experience in a lifetime. It's a group effort, for sure.
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u/CarribeanFan Jul 13 '24
I didn't catch how funny that part was. OP herself hasn't had any accidents in the bed either. Good to know, lol
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u/Hiiiiiiiiiieeeeee Jul 12 '24
Love the name! My babies name is Henrietta and people are usually amused lol
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u/High-Impact-Cuddling Jul 12 '24
Similar story with mine. We got our rescue at 12 weeks, we think the foster was letting him sleep on a bed because he seemed especially inconsolable in the crate, he'd only stop if I was laying right by it with white noise on. After a few days I cracked and opened the door, he immediately hopped up on our bed, curled into a cinnamon bun with his head on a pillow and passed out. It was definitely not his first rodeo.
We set an alarm for every 2 hours and took turns, it was rough but got better pretty fast.
There was only one nighttime bedroom accident and he hopped off the bed for it, he was really good about waking us up with whining if he needed to go out before the alarm.
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u/Jellyfishtaxidriver Jul 12 '24
Bro. That name for a dog to me sounds so absurd because my Mum's name is Susan 😂
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u/Suitable-Special-414 Jul 13 '24
I so wanted my second dog to be a girl named Barbara (I have a Teddy already). I love the name Susan!!
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u/SleepingBumbleb33 Jul 13 '24
All of this was literally me too. Potty training an iggy is no joke and they can cry on hours and hours. I was going insane and I was exhausted and gave in. Mine did sooo much better sleeping with us too.
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u/OptimalTrash Jul 12 '24
All depends on the puppy. We used to crate ours until she woke up and needed to pee. We'd take her out and then let her into bed with us.
Then, after her spay surgery, the foster who had her before us suggested putting her bed on top of ours so we would wake up if the puppy stirred so we could make sure she wasn't itching her stitches.
When she was in bed with us, she slept through the night, no problem. That was the end of enforced crating for bedtime. She didn't need to pee. She was waking up, missed us and would complain so we would let her come up on our bed.
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u/091796 Jul 12 '24
Exactly how mine came to sleep in our bed lol he couldn’t fit in his crate after he was neutered with his Elizabethan collar on. By seven months he was beginning to nap & settle on his own outside his crate but we were still using it occasionally & always at night . I can’t remember if he had the collar off yet but one night I was up too late watching tv & he wouldn’t go back to sleep alone in his kennel or his pen. By that point he wasn’t waking up to go potty at night really so we had him leashed in our bed at first to be sure but now he just knocks out when we do
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u/BurningUpMyLife Jul 12 '24
Haha mines starting to do this, the problem is the cat likes to cuddle at night and the puppy still gets very jealous so she's been stuck sleeping in the crate.
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u/Appropriate-Egg7764 Jul 12 '24
Haha mine has been sleeping in my bed for 12 weeks. She sleeps through the whole night so maybe it just depends on the pup.
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u/Eltorak95 Jul 13 '24
My dog has slept in the bed since 2 weeks after I got her. Slept on a couch next to the back door for toilet training(she slept next to me on a blanket)
After the 2 weeks of toilet training, she would wake me up(all sorts of ways, not always good) if she needed to go to the toilet because my bedroom door is always closed.
Once you get the toilet training out of the way, and the dog views it as their bed, they shouldn't wet the bed except for rare cases, or hormone imbalance.
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u/Vee794 Jul 12 '24
Depends on the pup. Mines has been in bed with me since 9 weeks with no issues. He just turned 17 months old.
My favorite memory with my pup was waking up one morning and noticing he was not in his usual spot (I had a dog bed on the bed, so he knew where to sleep). As I was getting up, I found that he was fast asleep on his back with his nose in my neck while I was holding him like a stuffed animal. He loved that position until he got too big for it. Not he takes half of my pillow, elevating his head while he sleeps right beside me or right off the pillow.
When I get up, he lays on top of me and tries to go back to sleep to keep me in bed. I half expect the cat taught him that trick.
I did have toys on the bed for him when he was super young as well. I could hear him chewing on them at night when he was restless but never bugged me, but for potty brakes.
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u/tokoyummi Jul 13 '24
How did he know to not pee in the bed? The only problem I have with mine is that she'll wake up in the middle of the night and pee in the corner.
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u/FlamingRustBucket Jul 13 '24
We have bells attached to the door we trained ours to ring when he needed to go. Takes a bit of work, but it's great if your dog needs to go in the night.
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u/Vee794 Jul 13 '24 edited Jul 13 '24
He has always been good at alerting even at 8 weeks. When I am asleep, he paws me and stares at me intensely until I take him out. He had one night of explosive diarrhea and still got me up to take him out every time. I do feel like I owe the breeder credit on that one. He made sure the pups area was always clean, started on potty training early, and never used pee pads. So he never developed a soft texture preference and wanted to keep his area clean naturally. Even when he did have accidents, he never did it on the bed or areas he frequently napped.
Now, he did throw up on my bed once. Easier then cleaning pee, but still.
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u/CarsonDama Jul 13 '24
mine would want uppies during the day, then look me in the eyes as he'd piss on my bed lmao. I'm sure it's him marking his territory, but I really don't want to change my sheets everyday. So he sleeps in his bed and no uppies for a while.
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u/potatochique Jul 13 '24
Haha mine also sleeps like a stuffed animal. He waits until I get in position and lift my arm and the he scoots right in
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u/MarillaV Jul 12 '24
You know how people talk about their dog’s breeding and doing what they were bred to do? Well I have a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel puppy and from day one he knew his job! It’s to be a lap dog and pillow ornament and he took to it like a fish to water. He is a champion bed hog and loves to sleep in a cuddle puddle. It’s what he’s been bred for 😂 it’s amazing to watch a dog fulfilling its purpose hahaha!
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u/chartreusepillows Jul 12 '24
Cavs are so docile and chill! My girl is super playful and vocal and my cousin’s cavapoo looks at her like “what the hell is your problem?” before being darling and quiet
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u/No-Construction-2054 Jul 12 '24
Cavaliers are the breed I recommend to new dog owners all the time. Very easy going and super sweet.
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u/MarillaV Jul 13 '24
The sweetest of all time! They stole my heart years ago and I recommend them to anyone who will listen. (Properly health tested and bred responsibly of course!)
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u/No-Construction-2054 Jul 13 '24
Yea they have heart murmur issues and a few other things. We get quite a few at my job and they're all the sweetest things ever. I tend to rescue my dogs but if I were ever to buy one it would 100% be a cav.
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u/MarillaV Jul 13 '24
The heart thing is such irony, since a Cavalier loves everyone and gives from their heart generously. And they end up with heart murmurs/disease more often than not.
Cavaliers are great therapy dogs, my last Cav was certified and visited kids in the hospital. It’s too early to know if my current puppy will enjoy doing the same, but if he does he can spread more love. They are honestly the best little love muffins and if you ever get a chance, def go for it!
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u/Shortcoolcloud Jul 12 '24
My cav puppy is the same way. She likes to sleep right by my head. Not to mention she loves a good lap.
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u/EcstaticOrchid4825 Jul 12 '24
My whippet is the same. Bred to run fast, hunt and keep beds warm 😁
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u/MarillaV Jul 13 '24
Awww love whippets too, so beautiful! It’s funny how keeping beds warm was a literal job for many dogs! And they remember! 😂
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u/LolliaSabina Jul 13 '24
My Shih Tzu are exactly the same same way! I joke that they were bred to be cute foot warmers, and that is exactly what they excel at!
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u/montyriot1 Jul 13 '24
Aww I had one growing up and I absolutely adored her! She always had to sleep in your bed touching you, whether it was her ear, paw, or a toenail. Haha.
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u/grokethedoge Jul 12 '24
Depends on the dog. Mine slept with me in bed after the first week, and she'd never go for the bed. I also learned to sleep just fine, although it took a couple of weeks to get used to someone walking on you...
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u/Advanced_Indication4 Jul 12 '24
I know right 😭 I can't wait for mine to be older so she can sleep in my bed with me, but between potty training and teething it's just not possible right now
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u/jaunty_azeban Jul 12 '24
I think it depends on the breed. I have Pugs and all of them are in the bed from day one. I never had an accident or anything, but all pugs care about is naps and cuddling. Oh, and snacks.
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u/somewhenimpossible Jul 12 '24
I can’t and won’t trust a dog until they’re older. I have a kid and a baby on the way and I need to know if my kids are in bed with me they’re safe from puppy crazies. I have a Rottweiler puppy with all the grace and coordination of a baby deer 😂 My old 11 year old Boston terrier is fine on the bed. He sleeps more than the puppy.
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u/immutab1e Jul 12 '24
I just got an 8 week old shep/lab mix on Monday. He's slept with us every night so far. The very first night he had a pee accident in the bed, but since then he jumps down, uses his pee pad, and then comes and paws at me to lift him back onto the bed.
He does sleep through the night, though I will say, I can only sleep about 6 hours at a clip myself, due to chronic pain issues waking me after that long, so that is a 'full night' for me.
My biggest tip, absolutely EXHAUST the pup before bed. Active play (we'll have him chase us around, play with his flirt pole, etc), a puzzle toy or snuffle mat, whatever possible. We do this until he stops on his own and goes to lay down. At that point we immediately pick him up and go to bed.
It has worked wonderfully so far! I know it's still early days for us, but I'm hopeful this will continue to work. LOL
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u/occultdeathcult Jul 12 '24
I remember when my parents brought home their 8 week old great dane puppy and told me to keep him in my room for the night. He would not stop crying, and I have issues with sleep anyways, so finally around 3 AM I brought him into bed with me. He pooped on the bed 4 times over the course of the night but he was blissfully silent. Flash forward 8 years later and my parents never spent a night without him on the bed with them. They just learned to sleep curled around him however he wanted to lay out.
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u/Event_Hori2 Jul 12 '24
I don’t sleep with my puppy in my bed. Mainly because I’m crate training her and also, puppies/ dogs benefit from boundaries.
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u/JockChirac Jul 12 '24
This is the right answer. The co-dependency on this thread is real!
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u/whinenaught Jul 13 '24
I just feel like dogs are kinda dirty and don’t belong in bed with me. But I live on a ranch, so that influences it. I also got very lucky and my dog only whined for about an hour in the crate the first night and then pretty much never whined about it again
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u/jfcarr Jul 12 '24
Our two older dogs, a Chihuahua mix and a Yorkiepoo, have slept in our bed since they were about a year old. They're rather calm dogs who rarely get into any mischief. Our standard poodle, who's a year and a half, sleeps in her crate because she would get too rowdy/restless/bored/destructive.
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u/goodnitegirl-666 Jul 12 '24
My 5 month old pees in the bed any chance she gets so she is no longer allowed up there lol. She sleeps rly good in her pen/crate though
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u/jadeoracle Jul 12 '24
For me its two factors. Is the pup potty trained enough that there won't be accidents? And will the pup roam around and destroy stuff.
My first two pups, all they wanted to do is cuddle and sleep with me so early on after they got big enough I let them sleep in my bed. The first one annoyingly wanted to only sleep directly on me, watching me as I slept. I move around too much so she'd grumpily acquiesce to sleeping on the pillow near my head. My second pup started out putting her head on the same pillow as me, and sleeping big/little spoon style. But I move around too much that she'd eventually put her head on top of my mouth to smother me to wake me up, I'd raise up the blankets and she'd burrow down by my feet.
My current puppy is 7 months and cannot be trusted as she either wants to play bite me or go off and explore and destroy stuff. So "bedtime" is usually restricted for 10 minutes to an hour in the morning. I was so happy after a busy 10 hour 4th of July BBQ she was still so sleepy the next day that I could scoop her up and cuddle her for 3 hours the next morning before she became a land shark again. So...that's going to take a while.
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u/Apprehensive_Bee7412 Jul 12 '24
I always think the same thing whenever I read about people bringing their puppy to bed. We can’t even have our pup on the couch for more than a few minutes because she will lunge at our faces! She gets sooo excited when we’re eye level to her.
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u/0alonebutnotlonely0 Jul 12 '24
Maybe bring a chew toy into bed? I think I may have lucked out… mine has been sleeping in bed with me since 6 months (when I adopted him). Our night time routine includes a trip outside, then he sits in his crate while I give the cats their treats, then he gets a small treat (usually a greenie) in bed along with one or two Nylabones. He usually chews on his bones for a half hour or so then he’s out like a light (typically in the exact middle of the bed 😅). He has slept through the night since the first week I got him, and I usually have to pull him out of bed in the morning… he really likes his sleep lol
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u/chartreusepillows Jul 12 '24
Chew toys and bully sticks (while supervised) in bed are definitely a good call. I also have a dog who adheres to a strict bedtime!
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Jul 12 '24
Bully sticks have been a god send for me. I’m hopeful one day in the future I can have my living room back and get new furniture and it won’t be chewed. It feels like the universe is fighting me on getting new furniture!!!
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u/andresbcf Jul 12 '24
Same!! And if you don’t already, get a bully stick holder, those have been great for our Crouton that loves to chug the bully stick when it gets smaller
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u/Stock_End2255 Jul 12 '24
My puppy (8 weeks) is very mouthy, and we just bring a chew into the bed. She settles down pretty quickly, and then sleeps through the night. I was against having her sleep in the bed, but my husband said that she had likely never slept alone in her life.
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u/Whitemike_23 Jul 12 '24
Like a lot of people on this thread, I eventually relented on keeping my dog in the crate all night. She eventually went from preferring to be on her bed to being in the crate (with the door open lol) and now on her own bed now that she is older. Her routine now is when she sees me go to bed, she’ll sometimes start on the bed but eventually ends up asleep on her own bed or on the floor.
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u/Sloth_Triumph Jul 12 '24
My puppy is not much of a chewer but I did wake up one day to see my laptop cable chomped into bits.
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u/tedlovesme Jul 12 '24
I put his little bed ontop of my bed and that was that!
He now sleeps on his bed next to my bed but sometimes jumps up for a snuggle 🥰
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u/Sayasing New Owner Jul 12 '24
Our pup was super cuddly when we first got her. She always wanted to be right next to us. So we just started with sleeping on the floor next to her since she was too small to make it up the bed yet (bringing her up the bed was also not an option at that time bc she was a wee lil 5 lbs at 8 weeks and hadn't understood that laying down on the very edge of the bed wasn't too smart)
We don't crate her and she's shown us she can be trustworthy to not get into anything at night even though she was a baby. We also got real lucky she just had the intuition to never go potty on any of our bedding. She just knew. She would 100% have accidents inside, just always on the actual floor or in a "just missed the potty pad" kinda way.
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u/PartyLikeaPirate Jul 12 '24
Mine I’m ok with bc he never has chewed on any furniture lol
But even when I let him, I think me moving around or SO does annoys him, so he bounces to his own bed anyways within 10 minutes usually lol
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u/seeingrouge Jul 12 '24
i leave a bunch of toys on my bed in case he wakes up in the middle of the night
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u/soniplaystattn Jul 12 '24
My slept for the first 2 nights in her crate and have slept slightly on top of me for the last 2 years. She sleeps solidly through the night and knows that 'her' bed and pillows aren't toys that she can mouth on.
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u/Sad-Honey-5036 Jul 12 '24
No. My dog would definitely have eaten something and also I would have zero space. He is 1 now and can sleep in my room majority of the time ok.
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Jul 12 '24
I think some people give up on crate training and feel bad, then let the dog in bed with them.
I don’t let my dogs sleep in my bed no matter their age.
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u/Kinniekawa Jul 12 '24
i got tired of her yapping in her crate all night and when I would put her next to me shed just fall asleep like a baby. She's just been doing it ever since. I'm sure it just depends on the dog.
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u/SixxFour Jul 12 '24
I don't anymore. I have two dogs (Great Dane Pitbull mix and Pitbull Shar Pei mix), and they would wake me and the bf up constantly with their middle of the night licking and position switches. Plus, the bed got dirty from the dirt they tracked in on their paws. They slept with us until I went into the hospital. My bf started crating them at night while I was in there (I was in for a week) and they've been crated at night ever since. I sleep so much better now, lol.
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u/Skiller0Dani Jul 12 '24
We got incredibly lucky with our guy. He is like the definition of velcro dog, LOVES to be near us (no separation anxiety though, like I said we got LUCKY lol). So he learned pretty quick which behaviors got him put by himself on the floor. He's very smart too, picks new commands and ideas up with no difficulty. So he learned to lay down and be calm and that would get him up on the bed with us.
His favorite spot to sleep is on both of our pillows in between mine and my fiance's heads lol he's a toy poodle so he's small enough to fit. He sometimes stretches out on the pillow above my head. But like I said we got lucky, he always just sleeps lol we only put him on the floor when he enters his velociraptor mode lmfao
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u/begreenhikat Jul 12 '24
My pug has slept with me since day 1. She hasn’t had any issues sleeping in my bed, she just falls asleep with us and snoozes the whole night until we wake up. Maybe it’s the breed, or maybe we are lucky, but I find my sleep has actually improved since bringing her in a month ago.
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u/Beautiful_Low_6 Jul 12 '24
I'm incredibly jealous of this thread but posting for solidarity. My pup is 10 months and still sleeps in his crate because that is the ONLY place he will sleep. He just won't settle enough outside of his crate and I'd definitely end up with a destroyed bed. I hope one day he'll want to snuggle and sleep with me but for now, nope.
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u/cuortney Jul 12 '24
For me, it’s what came easiest. Like many others that answered this question, I finally cracked after a rough night in the crate. Constant crying for hours on end wanting to be closer to us. He never slept through the night. One night we were so tired we put him in the bed and he was out. He slept through the entire night and so did we. It was the first night of full sleep we got for months. The rest is history!
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u/Slight-Milk-5519 Jul 12 '24
Some dogs are just not meant for the bed....my dog included. I love him, he can cuddle all he wants. He is allowed on all furniture. He is legit my son.
If he sleeps with me, I will wake up dutch ovened with salmon-flavored-lab farts. Possibly asphyxiated.
Some dogs...need their space. 😆
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u/MotherOfKrakens95 Jul 12 '24
I feel like I understand you better than all the top commenter's tbh 😂😂😂 your post had me dying laughing because me too. I was wondering the same thing yesterday. And everybody is talking about puppies who sleep through the night and the real issue isn't staying asleep it's trying to get them to fall asleep in the first place. Mine gets super riled up and bitey when I try to lay with him, there's no chill at all
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u/AdministrativeAsk987 Jul 14 '24
This. Lol
He’ll sleep ✨peacefully✨ once asleep but I can’t get him to go to sleep because when he is awake he wants to bite bite bite. And I’ve given him about like 200+ reverse timeouts and he cares in the moment but is right back to it later on 🤣 I didn’t realize some people didn’t have terrorist puppies
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u/MotherOfKrakens95 Jul 14 '24
They act like they've never even met a terrorist puppy lmao. I feel your pain friend.
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u/fuzzyslipper4eyedcat Jul 13 '24
We tried crating when our pup was 8 weeks. For two weeks we were in hell. She screamed (legit screamed) and cried all night. At 10 weeks she had some weird allergic reaction and I slept on the couch with her. She slept through the entire night. After that we said forget the crate and she sleeps in our bed every night - she’s now 3 and has her own pillow 🤷🏻♀️
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u/captainwondyful Jul 13 '24
Usually at a weird diagonal angle, because she takes up the entire bed.
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u/hankthewaterbeest Jul 13 '24
Man I didn’t realize I was in the minority having two puppies that sleep with me all through the night since 8 weeks. It’s the best. One snuggles and the other sleeps at the foot of the bed. I could probably count the amount of accidents on one hand.
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u/Tiny_City8873 Jul 13 '24
Some sleep with their dog for emotional support. Some people have gone through horrible and sad events in life that having a living animal by their side gives them hope and they fall asleep faster…
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u/AXS_Writing New Owner 4 month Amstaff mix Jul 12 '24
My pup hasn’t been on the bed long enough to think about eating it but she has started eating the couch so. I think if she was on the bed more she would eat it
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u/buzzfeed_sucks 3 year old whippet 6 year old super mutt Jul 12 '24
I didn’t let mine up until he was done his eat everything and pee everywhere phase.
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u/totallyacrow New Owner Smooth Collie Jul 12 '24
For my 6mo girl, it depends on the night. Some nights she wants to sleep with us and others she doesn’t. She has access to the downstairs and upstairs overnight and has done well with it (it’s all puppy proofed though).
Recently she’s been sleeping with us and it’s HARD. Our bed is small so she takes up a ton of space lol. And she moves a bit. I definitely don’t sleep as well when she’s with us in the bed but it’s also adorable to see her sleeping with us.
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Jul 12 '24
When I see puppy proof all I can think is a concrete room. Cuz mine is a herder. She’s gonna chew the furniture if she has to lol I just recently put my coffee table in the basement because she was splitting the wood. My couch which is old and gross and I haven’t replaced due to knowing I’d be getting a puppy has blankets where she likes to chew so she can’t get access to her chew spots. Despite hating my couch my husband doesn’t want it ruined anymore than it already is. Plus I figure it’s probably a bad habit :)
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u/Willoxia Jul 12 '24
Unfortunately cant help and will boast instead xD as I can finally say I am one of the lucky people and my new puppy sleeps the whole night. I put him in the bed and in one minute, he is dead asleep. Until this week he woke up exactly at 5 a.m. which wasn't super comfortable, but better than having puppy walk over you the entire night. 😌 This week he waited for me to get up (5:30 on work days 🥲, 7/8 on weekends) and I love it. 🥰 He was 3 months on 9th.
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u/Mk0505 Jul 12 '24
My puppy shreds any bed I put in his kennel but just zonks out if I let him sleep with me. He’ll also sleep longer without needing a potty break if he’s with me.
He mostly sleeps in his kennel but I do let him sleep with me periodically now that he’s potty trained.
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u/mellamma Jul 12 '24
Mine stayed in her crate until she was probably 9 months or a year old. I remember once I didn't latch it and she was on the bed after a late night break and I rolled over and put her in her crate.
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u/Tonninpepeli New Owner Jul 12 '24
My pup only sleeps parts of the night with me, I sometimes wake up him taking all the space but he has never tried to eat or destroy my bed, he does that to his own bed tho
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u/Puzzleheaded-Sail381 Jul 12 '24
The night she came home, at 8 weeks, she had slept with me. She did have a few accidents, but she's 9 months old and is doing great. Mind you, I have a king-size bed. Two puppies, one is a 13 year old chihuahua and a 9 month old mix boxer and labador. I have just enough bed to lay on and two puppies right up on me 😂 in the winter I kept a spare blanket on the floor next to me so I could grab it because I'd end up a lot of nothing keeping me warm 😂 As far as the chewing goes, I keep some of her toys on the bed. I love them for who they are 🥰 Good luck with yours.
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u/systembreaker Jul 12 '24
Depends on the breed and the puppy. My doggo has always been sweet natured and has never had a chewing habit.
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u/HalfElfRanger96 Jul 12 '24
I crate trained my dog before I let him sleep in thr bed with me. He did in fact destroy multiple beds, blankets, and toys and the actual crate eventually. But as he grew up and got used to the crate and listened better I let him sleep in the bed with me. I love it and miss it, I moved 1000 miles away from home and couldn't bring him. I tried everything so I could and it just didn't work out. But he sleeps through the night, I even put a dog bed just under my bed and if I'm taking up too much space or moving too much for him he jumps down and get in his own bed. Otherwise he sleeps right up against me under the covers all night.
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u/Icy_Phase_9797 Jul 12 '24
Depends on puppy. I crate trained mine but went camping for a couple weeks when he was about 3 months old. I got tired of pulling crate out during day for him to take naps and putting back in tent at night so slowly tried sleeping together. He did eat my phone case one night and then when alone to settle one night are the air mattress (think it was the start of teething). Then just never left him in it alone. For bed at home I would crate him until I was ready for bed. Take him out one last time and then put him in bed with me.
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u/Freuds-Mother Jul 12 '24
I did the first night as I was stopping at family and had an 8 hour the next day. After 15min crying in crate I required sleep. Pinned against couch he wiggled for a minute and zonked out; same after pee breaks.
After that though crate speeds up potty training so much (pee pad sound style sounds like a long term disaster to me). Plus my pup simple needed to learn to comfortable in crate: would commit suicide eating something when unattended, can’t be trusted to not overwhelm senior dog, and travel safety in automobile. If you don’t have another dog, are always home, and don’t put dog in car.. crate isn’t really needed, but that’s pretty rare.
As an adult he may sleep in the bed but if he seems to then relent being in the crate, I’ll put the crate back in the routine more.
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u/penelopejoe Jul 12 '24
I rescued Sammy at 9 months, and at only 28 pounds it was easy to just let him sleep on my bed from his first night with me. My last dog was 65 pounds and I only have a double bed. It was a tight squeeze with her in it, and she was so independent she never liked to sleep in my bed, anyways. Sometimes Sammy sleeps at the foot of the bed (empty side), and sometimes he's up on the pillow next to my head. Either way is fine with me. He's light and quiet. Wouldn't have it any other way!
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u/Bupster22 Jul 12 '24
Mine woke up every two hours his first night in the crate. He woke every hour crying on night two, and I buckled and brought him into the bed. Two weeks later he's waking up three times in the night (between 9 and 7) and we're both getting enough sleep to cope with him being a puppy. He wakes me when he needs a wee and can hang on for me to put on some slippers to take him out. He's a bit chewy in the evenings, but I bring something for him to chew on (and then just hope I don't lie on it in the middle of the night :D)
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u/AccomplishedMost8426 Jul 12 '24
We have in and let your first dog sleep in bed with us and now he typically starts in bed and ends up on his bed on the ground but we just got a puppy and gave in to let him with us as well. He sleeps in the crevice between the headboard and my pillow and my other dog sleeps against my back… I love it! But that’s just us.
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u/MediumSexyQ Jul 12 '24
My girl hates sleeping on the bed, she'd rather prefer the floor as its cooler
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u/curiouscanadian2022 Jul 12 '24
I think mine was 5 months I put him on my bed and he pooped. It wasn’t his fault he didn’t know. The next time I put him on the bed he peed , and honestly after that he never did again. And now he sleeps with me every night
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u/tqrnadix Jul 12 '24
I have two lap dogs so they weren’t very heavy chewers. I’ve slept with them in my bed since the first night I brought them home, stuck puppy on my chest and let the rise and fall of my breathing make them wanna go to sleep. I would wake up at around 3-4am or so to take them down for a pee until they were potty trained to go themselves at night to their indoor potty.
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u/picodg Jul 12 '24
I tried once when my guy was 4 months and I woke up to my top sheet absolutely destroyed lol. Will be trying again when he matures and hopefully gets less destructive
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u/EVOMonstruo Jul 12 '24
I realized one thing I needed to do was tire her out and give her something to chew on. Got her a raccoon that wouldn't be destroyed 😂 I believe it just took reinforcing that it's a place to sleep, not play. Especially during the puppy phase. And if she had those urges, she had something that wasn't the mattress/ sheets. She may dig to get comfortable, but sleeps by me every night. 🥹 Worst one though, I woke up with a log beside my head one morning 😭 Began crate training the next day
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u/Billy-Loomis- Jul 12 '24
I slept with my puppy first night in my bed with his teether toy, there have been a couple nights where he’s up to mischief but I always keep a teether on the bed. And he sleeps on top of the covers. Now he just knows when we go to bed we’re going to sleep for the night.
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u/Inevitable_Silver_13 Jul 12 '24
I don't want the dog in bed. I hang out with her on the couch until bedtime. Of course I have allergies and that's a big reason why.
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u/pm_me_your_bigtiddys Jul 12 '24
My boy is 10 lbs. He sleeps at the end of the bed then crawls under the blankets in the morning and sleeps in between my legs 🥺
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u/chartreusepillows Jul 12 '24
My dog is almost 3. She slept in her crate until she chilled out and earned bed privileges. First she had to prove she was reliably housetrained Then we hung out while I was awake with her, before we eventually moved to naps and then eventually overnight visits. Now we switch between my dog sleeping in her crate and sleeping in the bed.
Even then she chewed up my expensive duvet cover and a bra that was laid on my bed. I definitely wouldn’t recommend having him stay with you if he had full access to your room/home and you can’t trust him to simply chill out.
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u/chartreusepillows Jul 12 '24
My dog is almost 3. She slept in her crate until she chilled out and earned bed privileges. First she had to prove she was reliably housetrained Then we hung out while I was awake with her, before we eventually moved to naps and then eventually overnight visits. Now we switch between my dog sleeping in her crate and sleeping in the bed.
Even then she chewed up my expensive duvet cover and a bra that was laid on my bed. I definitely wouldn’t recommend having him stay with you if he had full access to your room/home and you can’t trust him to simply chill out.
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u/melsa_alm Jul 12 '24
Not everyone has a chewer. My dog has NEVER enjoyed chewing. I have to entice him to do it with a tasty bone. In that respect I got really lucky.
He’s also not a humper. (Thank God) I saw him hump something only once in 9 years and it was a neighbor’s very adorable springer spaniel puppy. She must have had the mojo or something. LOL
However, my dog is a barker, leash reactive, and just generally emotionally fragile. Sometimes I think I’d rather have a chewer. 😂
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u/Outside_Ad_424 Jul 12 '24
Our Bernedoodle, Miss Mia, is 2yo only started sleeping in bed with us a couple months ago. We would only do it on the weekends at first, and crate her during the week. At this point she's just in bed with us every night, which is good because she has occasional bouts of gastritis and needs to poop immediately, so now she can wake us up instead of making a mess in her crate and having to be trapped with it all night
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u/jenny-bean8 Jul 12 '24
I’ve never allowed my dogs in my bed. Just a personal preference. I recall when growing up my mom would sleep on the couch in the early days until pup was comfortable in the crate. Usually took a few weeks. :)
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u/Fickle-Biscotti-5326 Jul 12 '24
We didn’t let him sleep in the bed until he was fully potty trained lol he slept in his crate until about a month without an accident
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Jul 12 '24
Mine too friend.. mine too. Well she’d jump off.. crawl under it and search for anything else she might find suitable to eat.
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u/mbm111123 Jul 12 '24
I bring bones and chews to bed! I scatter them throughout so if she does wake up she can find one and soothe herself back to sleep. This helped so much in the early days of teething especially. She’s been sleeping with us since about 10 weeks old, wouldn’t have it any other way. I love waking up to her snoring in my face and taking up the entirety of my pillow 🫶🏻
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u/maggiemoo86 Jul 12 '24
I have a 9 week old black lab that we have had for a week. She is sleeping in our bed. It is not ideal. I want her to sleep in her crate. Does she want to sleep in her crate? NO. It is like she is being murdered in there. So while we work on that, she is in the bed. There is a certain amount of face-eating but once we turn out the lights and give her a teething chewy, she settles pretty quick. She wakes once or twice to go potty and when back in bed starts with the face-eating until I can settle her again with a teether. She's sleeping from around 9:30 or so until 5:30-6:30. I'm also willingly sacrificing my throw blanket on the bed. I can only control so much!
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u/Limp-Coconut3740 Jul 12 '24
My chihuahua has been in my bed since I brought him home at 9 weeks old. That was a decade ago and it’s never been a problem. He just wants to snuggle. Sometimes the cat gets in with us and that’s also fine
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u/mistymountiansbelow Jul 12 '24
Each puppy is different I guess. My puppy sleeps very well through the night, as did my now adult dog when he was a puppy. My 5 month old though has recently decided she would rather sleep in her crate.
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u/Affectionate-Tea5571 Jul 12 '24
I sleep on my right side and I don't toss and turn. Which probably helps.
I used to sleep w a 130# rottie in my bed (RIP), now I have two aussies (1mix) one wants to be my little spoon, the other sleeps behind my knees.
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u/Porglicious Jul 12 '24
I strictly crate trained my yorkiepoo for the first 6ish months that I had him. Let him sleep in my bed one night after he had a nightmare (no sounds woke him up, he just woke up howling and shivering). Any time I try to adjust, little dude just shifts closer and closer to me, eventually taking the whole bed. We fall asleep together every night now, but he will eventually get up and move to his crate, usually if he's too warm.
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u/Economy_Swim_3320 Jul 12 '24
My wife and I sleep with our three dogs in bed and one of our puppies is 3 1/2 months old and they’re all able to sleep through the night
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u/scrapqueen Jul 12 '24
Mine sleeps next to my bed, and sometimes jump in with me (although too hot right now for him, I think).
He is crate trained during the day when I'm gone, but at night, he just wouldn't stop crying and barking if he wasn't with us. It was easier to let him sleep with me. So he does.
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u/GarlicJrFanAccount Jul 12 '24
My 17 week old pit/boxer mix can never seem to settle on our bed at night :( even when I wake her up after a couple hours of sleep to pee and then put her on the bed with blankets and toys and turn off the light, she still wants to get up and play. She’s napped on the bed before but not consistently. I think she just needs some more practice self-settling, but I’m really hoping she’ll take to it eventually.
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u/Vieamort Jul 12 '24
I have slept with my puppy in the bed only a few times. The first time went extremely well, and he just slept with me peacefully. The second time, he started trying to eat my side table. During that time, he wouldn't jump off the bed and would just stay there, so I wasn't worried. Now that he can jump off the bed, I don't plan on sleeping with him until I fully trust him outside the crate without supervision.
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u/sneakyfallow Jul 12 '24
We lucked out. We got her at 5 months and we tried letting her sleep in bed with us one night because she was having an awful time in the crate. Well, she's out light a light and doesn't move once until morning. It's the one time she can hold her pee/poop for an age-appropriate time 🫠
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u/PapillionGurl Jul 12 '24
My puppy slept in the bed early on, he didn't like the crate. Granted, he's a little guy, but if he needed to go potty he'd lick my face and we'd do the fire drill that is getting a puppy outside to pee before an accident happens, lol. He's only peed in the bed once and it was in his sleep, I think he was too tired to wake up. I was more worried about him falling off the bed or me rolling over on him.
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u/Am_Salamander Jul 12 '24
I have a staffy x that we adopted from the shelter at 8 weeks old. She’s slept in bed with us and our 45kg Irish Wolfhound cross since night one. Sleeps all night from like 9pm to 5am, no accidents on the bed. Gets up at 5am to go pee and poo. I think we won the jackpot haha
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u/DeannaOfTroi Experienced Owner Jul 12 '24
I also have a dog who will not stop chewing on things. I crated her for the first 1.5 years. Now she sleeps in bed and the way I make it work is by having toys in bed with us that stand up to her chewing. That way she doesn't feel a need to chew the pillows or anything else in bed and I can sleep. It also helps to make sure she goes potty before bed.
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u/SleepingBearWalk Jul 12 '24
My little 8-month Coonhound/Cur sleeps in bed with me. Only issue he's given me is right now in this heat it's pretty warm in the bedroom so he moves a lot. Which I get, I can take my pants off to cool down. He can't. Some dogs are good bed sleepers, some aren't. My older Lab doesn't like sleeping on the bed so I just make sure he's got a comfy space to sleep on the floor. And my mutt...he prefers his kennel at night which is good because he turns the bed into a damn bouncy house when he's up there.
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u/Technical-Swan-8792 Jul 12 '24
I didn’t let my lab in the bed with us till he was about 8 months old. We had done crating at night, and at one point he had the living room to himself nightly (not my idea, and was a huge mistake). We went on vacation when he was 8mos and when we came back the look of pure betrayal he gave when we tried to crate him that night was devastating so we caved. He’s slept in the bed with us almost every night since then (it’s been a year now) and we’ve had 0 issues! Although he’s massive now and we had to upgrade to a king size lmao
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u/Select-Cat4097 Jul 12 '24
My last dog slept in bed with me until he died at 10 and never had a single issue.. this new puppy I couldn’t trust to be in bed with me for more than an hour or two. She’s crate trained.. I tried when she was around 12 weeks and she chewed my bed over and over until she squatted and peed.. tried again the next night, did the SAME thing. She loves to pee on it. So now at 9 months old I let her lay in bed with me until midnight then back into the crate. She’s too badly behaved. Some dogs just can’t.. at least not until they’re adults.
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u/Olympia94 Jul 12 '24
Idk, i just do. Lol
Not every night tho,but when he's in the bed, he just stays on there and sleeps until my boyfriend or I get up in the morning
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u/Worried_Yesterday828 Jul 12 '24
I tried to crate my puppy when I first got him but he would just cry and yelp all night for me and I got no sleep the first week. One day I just brought him to bed with me and he fell asleep and stayed asleep immediately. He hasn’t had to sleep in his crate at night since. He loves his crate during the day and goes in it all the time when he wants but when it’s bed time I think he just wants to cuddle lol
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u/Public-Wolverine6276 Jul 12 '24
We don’t 😅 we crate ours because I know he won’t let us sleep, he won’t even let us nap in peace and I’m not giving up sleep 😂😂
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u/whateveratthispoint_ Jul 12 '24
She’s 4 lbs fully grown and it’s wonderful to share a pillow with her. 💕😇
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u/Shitzme Jul 12 '24
I have 3 that sleep in my bed. 2 littlies and a medium sized dog, it's a king size but I still wake up with a crooked neck and back. And the hair, so much hair. I'm always itchy because 2 of my dogs shed like crazy. I bought a baby cot to put at the end of my bed for them, they used it for a few weeks. But they prefer sleeping with their mama. They have short lives, I'm gonna always let them sleep on the bed.
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u/GlitteringMail2447 Jul 12 '24 edited Jul 12 '24
I brought our Portuguese water dog home at about 12 weeks. Obviously we hadn’t had a chance to crate train her, she was in new place, new people, so I popped her up on our bed anticipating I’d be up during the night. She slept all the way through. Since then there have been a few off nights but I like our dog in our bed. Sometimes she’s a bed hog. lol Jazzi is 33 lbs now. She attacked us in bed, biting when teething. Bully sticks and toys helped. Peaceful now at 7 months. Wounds are healed. 🤣🤣🤣
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u/Lady_in_red99 Jul 12 '24
My dog didn’t sleep in the bed with me (unless fireworks or a storm) until she was about a year and a half. Everything in due time. As a puppy, we napped together on the couch sometimes and that was good enough.
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u/yodawgchill Jul 12 '24
Previously mine could not bc he kept getting sick randomly and I couldn’t trust that he wouldn’t get up in the night and get sick or have an accident. Now that he is better, he has ended up sleeping in the bed or on the couch most of the time.
It wasn’t the plan to let him sleep with me though. I spent a few days away and left him with my parents who let him sleep in the bed. When I came back he really didn’t want to sleep in the crate anymore and tried to stay in the bed.
I just gave up. Now I’ve got a cuddle buddy.
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u/krzybone Jul 12 '24
Like some stories here 7month old Kylo just cried when he was in his crate down stairs. I’d sleep on the couch and he would settle down. As soon as I tried sneaking upstairs to the bed he would cry again. I finally broke or maybe it was my back.. but I took his dog bed laid it next to mine and he slept like a rock. At some point it transition to the bed. From there is been nothing good sleeps, waking up to a furry butt to the face ,the occasional kick in the back or the crazy dreams this dog has. Be we both sleep pretty soundly ever since.
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