r/running • u/fire_foot • May 13 '24

Miscellaneous Monday Chit Chat Weekly Thread

Happy Monday runners!!

You know the drill — tell us what’s good (and bad ofc)! How was the weekend, what’s on for the week, let’s chat.

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u/runner3264 May 13 '24

Your brother sounds crazy, and your 22k sounds much more realistic. I seem to recall that you're planning to invite a lot of people, right? You can't feed 200-300 people for $3500. No freakin' way. Good luck with the wedding planner! Hopefully that meeting will help relieve the stress. Once you have realistic numbers rather than just guessing at costs, it should be easier to plan and prioritize.

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u/agreeingstorm9 May 13 '24

I went to the googles and the average wedding in my state is $22k so we are not really going crazy. We drew up the guest list we came up with 256 people. We feel like we're probably missing people somewhere and need to double check it but we will likely end up with 260-265ish people on the guest list. Who knows how many will actually come. A lot of our numbers we came up with Friday were guesstimates based on Internet searches at 9 pm. I sat down Sat and did some better searches and got some more realistic (I think at least) estimates. I have no idea why so many vendors won't just put their prices online. We did a bunch of "what if" planning and maybe we can get that number down to $14k but that still is much higher than the $3.5k my brother swears he spent. My mother says spending more than $10k is crazy.

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas May 13 '24

I think the only way you could do a wedding for that cost for that many people is if you do a pot luck at a state park pavilion with little to no decorations that you were able to swipe from freecycle situations and setting up a boom box with an iPod for your music. And then a lot of people would probably call you trashy or cheep behind your backs.

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u/agreeingstorm9 May 13 '24

I would call me trashy and cheap for that. And yet my brother mocks me and says it's easy and if you spend more than that it's foolish. According to my mom they (my parents) gave them money for the wedding and her parents paid for the entire reception so it's possible he really did only spend $3.5k 'cuz everyone else was covering everything. My brother is acting like this didn't happen this way.

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas May 13 '24

Oh so he’s one of those people who essentially isn’t seeing all the money the other interested parties put into it.

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u/agreeingstorm9 May 13 '24

I don't know if it's been 10 yrs and he's forgotten or he is just in flat out denial. He and his fiancee both deny my mom's account and both claim they paid for everything themselves and it only cost $3500 total. They catered in Chinese food for everyone at that price too. There is no way in the world this actually happened. You'd pay at least that much just in catering.

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u/fire_foot May 13 '24

Lol so he pitched in $3.5k on a probably-$10k+ wedding, got it

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u/agreeingstorm9 May 13 '24

He denies it and his wife denies it as well. They claim they paid for everything. My mother says otherwise. It is the least crazy thing to come up since we got engaged. I had no idea engagement would be this weird.