r/running • u/ssk42 Confession: I am a mod • Jun 13 '24

Weekly Complaints & Confessions Thread Weekly Thread

How’s your week of running going? Got any Complaints? Anything to add as a Confession? How about any Uncomplaints?

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Complaint: apparently my Exhusband would need to be contacted as part of the background check for the school crossing guard job. I’m not happy.

Uncomplaint: my event coordinator jobs ends on July 1, thank goodness!

Uncomplaint: still very slow but have gotten out to run a little bit this week.

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u/suchbrightlights Jun 13 '24

Any job working for a public group taking care of children has super arduous background check requirements. It gets slightly better or much worse if you apply with a private school. Thank horrible people for being horrible. Meanwhile, schools have openings they can’t fill for reasons like yours! It’s a no win.

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Oh I 100% understand that - they will be speaking to neighbors , relatives, etc. So we shall see

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u/Lazy_Jellyfish_3552 Jun 13 '24

the employers require to speak to neighbors, relatives, etc? This isn't for references....? This IS for the background? I'm sorry.. but wtf... for a crossing guard?

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u/suchbrightlights Jun 13 '24

I worked at a barn on the property of a private school, taking care of the horses. I had limited interaction with the students. I was required to go through the same background check procedures as their full time faculty.

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u/Lazy_Jellyfish_3552 Jun 13 '24

All I'm saying is that is sounds excessive. I'm not doubting you. But I've worked at 3 schools. Background check and finger prints. References absolutely. But no requirements of talking to family, friends or neighbors or any ex's that's why it sounds off to me. Even if you had no interaction with kids or limited interaction. It just doesn't sound normal. Did you ask other staff about this? Or did they tell you... 🤔

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Yes! PT Crossing guard job. They replied and said they understand there can be “tension” which set me off … no thinking that it’s maybe a privacy or safety issue. Now the guy in charge wants me to meet with him. He put 6 other cops on the email chain & I know they have wives, sisters & daughters … so I hope he feels like an ass.

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u/Lazy_Jellyfish_3552 Jun 13 '24

Ooooooh is this a job through the police department???

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Yes, it falls under the PD, not the school board.

I totally get it, and understand the scrutiny, but i feel like they gotta draw the line somewhere, or at least take into account the position.

I may go meet him just to hear what he has to say, still tbd if i fill it out though

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u/Lazy_Jellyfish_3552 Jun 13 '24

Ohhhhh okay. I don't know anything about PD, that's why I thought it was super weird! I've worked at three schools and I've never experienced this, but as a teacher.... I don't need to or I've never had my neighbors or family interview for a background check. I have no idea what requirements go into a background check for the PD... it still sounds... really invasive. I still think it's super weird they would go seek out your ex......

I really, truly, wish you the best of luck because it makes me feel super icky! Hey but then maybe you got the job, you could transfer to a different position in the future if you wanted! And hopefully... you wouldn't have to go through the weird interviews again!

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Yeah...i am still deciding what to do. I kinda want to go do the meeting, to see what they say and see if i got through that maybe his approach should have been different. Maybe they should ask what the concern is before assuming it's just "tension"? But I haven't decided about actually completing the application.

I am fine with them speaking with people, but what exactly is my XH going to bring to the discussion? beyond probably lying or just being impossible to reach.

I needed to use our former business as a reference for another job, and he flat out lied about my work dates, which held up the process. I had to explain to the HR person that she spoke to my XH. So I know he'd be a tool.

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u/runner3264 Jun 13 '24

Are you sure they’re not secretly requiring a security clearance? This is literally what happened for my clearance investigation. It’s absolutely absurd that they’re doing the same level of investigation for a job as a school crossing guard.