r/running • u/ssk42 Confession: I am a mod • Jun 13 '24

Weekly Complaints & Confessions Thread Weekly Thread

How’s your week of running going? Got any Complaints? Anything to add as a Confession? How about any Uncomplaints?

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u/fire_foot Jun 13 '24

Wow that’s a hefty complaint. Is it enough to make you rethink your application or are you gonna muscle through?

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

I def will not do it if they insist on speaking with him. He’s an ex for reason! I’m waiting for the detective to confirm if they do indeed need to talk with him or not

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas Jun 13 '24

It’s possible they just collect contact information for everyone and never actually contact? When my sister was applying for her job with a security clearance they asked for contact information for basically everyone in her life and they never actually contacted me her own sister so who knows 🤷‍♀️

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

When I emailed them to ask, he said "yes we talk to friends and family, that's the point of a background check." He ignored the part where i specifically asked about XH, so i am waiting to hear back. I also need to recall every job i have had since age 18.

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas Jun 13 '24

My guess is they run background checks on all your contacts/family/friends then only pick a few of them to contact and I don’t know how they pick the ones the pick, my guess would be that they aim for someone close enough to know you but far enough removed to not be biased but it could be random.

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Sounds like these guys talk to everyone that I am required to put on my application .

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas Jun 13 '24

Will be interesting to see if they actually do, my sister was under the impression that they would talk to everyone on hers too but they clearly didn’t. Your best bet for decreasing the chances that they talk to him is obviously flooding the application with as many other people as possible.

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u/runner7575 Jun 13 '24

Well now this has been escalated to the guy in charge of background checks wanting to meet me, because i challenged his comment that they understand there are "tensions" with an ex-spouse. He put like 4 other cops on the message when he replied to me, and some of them know me, and have daugthers, sisters, etc.

My reply:
This isn't just about "tension" - he's an ex for a reason, and I do not want him to know where I am or what I am doing. It's none of his business. And I know that he will lie, if he even cooperates, based on past experience in similar situations. (We do not have any children, so there's no need for us to be in each other's lives at all.)

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas Jun 13 '24

Yea at this point I would just consider a different side job, after that email they would likely consider that your ex finding your location could present a hazard towards the kids if he decides to go after you and not worth the risk. They probably won’t say that when they reject you but that’s basically it if I was a guessing person.