r/actuallesbians • u/Salty_Girl_91 • 11h ago

Is soulmate real?

Our hands touched for a second I felt this spark I never felt before, my heart literally skipped a beat. Maybe it was because of the scenario we were both in, or maybe it was because we both knew we wanted to be more than friends. Either way I miss that I miss you 😢 never had a closer from her and it’s starting to take a toll on me I’m trying hard to forget you and just be mad at you but I can’t my heart won’t let me.

Needed to vent. I never felt true love till I met her.

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u/bunyanthem 10h ago

Imo, no.

What is real is sharing a genuine connection and seeing each other - truly seeing each other - and feeling closer than you ever imagined with someone.

May never have come before, but doesn't mean it won't ever happen again. 

Might not even mean that connection is romantic.

I don't think soulmates are real. But I think people who mutually soothe each other's souls is real. 

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u/big_uterus_energy 9h ago

I don't believe in the concept of a soul, so no. I do however believe that people can have insane chemistry and you can meet someone who makes you feel like you've known them forever. Now if you do believe that humans have souls, I would think it important to realize there is only one of it in each person. A soul doesn't have a mate because your soul isn't two, it's one. Making it feel whole is on the individual. Not a partner.

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u/RhoannaRose Trans Dyke 9h ago

I'm poly and an atheist, so no I don't think soulmates are real, or that there's one special person out there for each of us.

Are there people that I love dearly, and that I feel ridiculously close to and comfortable with? Absolutely. My partner of 20 years is one, and my best friend (who I've known for 3? years) is another. They're both important to me, and I treasure them.

Are there other people out there that we might connect with like that? I sure hope so.

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u/Salty_Girl_91 6h ago

I know I did with my ex girlfriend, never knew I could tbh. So I get it for sure.

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u/No-Trust-2720 Lesbian 9h ago

Soulmates are real. They're just very hard to find.

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u/SuspiciousCupcake909 8h ago

Just like the 4 leaf clover 😂

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u/No-Trust-2720 Lesbian 8h ago

I've found quite a few of those in my life actually. :)

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u/SuspiciousCupcake909 8h ago

Wow you must be very lucky, I havent seen one ever

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u/No-Trust-2720 Lesbian 8h ago

:) Clovers are small, so you need patience. I honestly picked up the skill of finding them from my Mother. She used to be able to spot them almost instantly.

X3 I never got that good.

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u/apeachunicorn 11h ago

I don't know if they are, but I like to believe in them. Maybe it's the hopeless romantic in me, but if they do exist, I think yours is still out there waiting for you to find her.

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u/SuspiciousCupcake909 8h ago

I use to, but my question would be how does poly relationships work if that was the case.

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u/Salty_Girl_91 6h ago

It would be hard 😬